My spouse died suddenly June 18th, and I just wondered how to know when I'm ready to date again. A lot of people say a year or when you think you are, and I think there's more to this than that. Any ideas? (I'm a man, and I'll be seeking a woman whenever if it is meant to be)
2006-10-14 14:05:37 · 9 answers · asked by on_the_move4ever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As someone who has been through this, I would say it depends on how close you were to your spouse. I know that when my wife died, after twelve years together, it was another four years before I seriously had anything to do with any other woman, and even then I got myself into some ridiculously unsuitable relationships, simply because I wasn't quite rational.
I don't think you will be able to stop yourself from making bad decisions at first, so just be prepared for things not to go as smoothly as you might hope. But eventually you will be back to normal, and hopefully making the right choices again.
2006-10-14 14:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by langdonrjones 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, you will know when you are ready, but asking this question seems to suggest that you are thinking about dating again already. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Your spouse (god bless her) wants you to be happy, so start when your ready. It is really a comfort thing not a particular time, and of course it is different for everyone.
2006-10-14 14:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by the wise one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, let me say that I am sorry for your loss - I can't imagine what life would be like without my wife... I love her so much. The answer is to "How will I know"...whenever you feel like it.... not before and don't feel you have to wait some specific period of time. If you believe in God (and that may be difficult right now) ask for guidance. BTW I am not a Bible thumper, but I acknowledge God in my life. Good Luck to you and I hope you find someone when the time is right.
2006-10-14 14:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you start dating now you will most likely fall in and out of depression and that won't be good for any dating relationship. Yes waiting a year would be a good idea then you will know what is going on in your life.
2006-10-14 14:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by LVieau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mainly, I would say when you're sure you're past the initial grieving process. I think a year is good because you'll get through a first birthday, Christmas, new years, without her. I mean, you've only gone a few months, you're not done with this goodbye process yet.
2006-10-14 14:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do it when you're ready. No one on the face of the Earth can make that decision for you. You might not even know yourself.
Just tell the women you're with where you're at emotionally. It's only fair.
2006-10-14 14:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think there's any specific 'time'. I think you just know when you know. Nobody else can say when it's right and when it's not. I truely believe that you will feel it in your heart when you're ready.
2006-10-14 14:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by colleenjohn_vano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you feel your ready. there is no set time to this. dont think about what other ppl say or think. this is you and yr life not theirs. read tips on dating and relationships to help you more on this site
2006-10-14 14:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be so devastated I'd probably continue to live my life in solace, alone.
=/ Sad to hear I feel sorry. But for this question I have no answer.
2006-10-14 14:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋