they think he should get married at a church i told them to butt out its his wedding was i wrong or right need some advice
2006-10-14 14:03:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You were totally right. If they were in his position, they wouldn't care what anyone else thought. Are they helping to pay for the wedding?
Some people like the privacy of an at home wedding. Location for a wedding is either private, or public. And the ones walking down the aisle choose that.
2006-10-14 14:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married in our back yard and we had a live jazz quartet and 50 guests. The entire wedding cost us $3000 including the clothes and invitations, food & drinks, minister, band, tables and chairs, plates,forks, napkins, etc. We bought blank invitations and printed them on our computer printer. I bought my wedding dress at the Cancer Society thrift store and paid $18.00 for it. (Of course I had to pay $265.00 to get it professionally altered!!). We rented tables and chairs which were delivered the day before the wedding and picked up the day after by the rental company. We had bottled water and spritzers in tubs of ice, and plastic cups if people wanted them. We had paper plates and plastic forks. We didn't have a traditional wedding cake but ordered 5 different kinds of really good cakes from a local baker, who decorated them with white roses for the wedding and delivered them 1/2 hour before the ceremony. We hired a friend who has a license to marry. We bought simple gold wedding bands at Sears. We hired a caterer who prepared the entree and we prepared our own fruit salad, cheese plate and green salad. The food turned out to be fantastic. The caterer provided a server who did all the serving and then cleaned up the entire mess afterward. We had no alcohol because it is too expensive and no one minded at all. All the flowers were from our yard. Some friends did all the flower arrangements. I grow gladiolus and roses and there were other flowers as well. Everyone had a fabulous time and some people told us it was the nicest and most fun wedding they had ever been to. People feel they can dress more casually (ours was totally casual) and that makes them feel more relaxed. I highly recommend having it at your new home. That is very special and not so formal and definitely not as expensive. I don't understand why or how people spend thousands of dollars for weddings when you could use the money for a really nice honeymoon or anything else without having to drive yourself half way to bankruptcy.
2006-10-14 21:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by galacticsleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The groom has spoken. End of story. The only other person who has a say in this is the bride. Where does she want to get married at? If she likes the idea of you hosting the wedding, then I would say you are having a wedding.
Some parents, my included, wants the wedding at a church. They feel God blesses it more being under his roof. I was very surprised that my daughter and her husband didn't want a church wedding, because they are very church going young people. But they choose an outdoor wedding. God is going to bless the union where ever it is. Tell Mom and Dad that God just doesn't live in the church, he's present everywhere.
Thank you for being such a wonderful sister, and hosting this most important occassion for your brother and his bride. You definietly win the "Best Sister" award.
God bless us all...............
2006-10-15 09:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you weren't wrong. I think if you are willing to open up your home to a wedding, and that's what they want, then they should go for it! Everyone always has an opinion when it comes time for weddings. All you can do is take each opinion with a grain of salt and in the end do what YOU want to do!
2006-10-14 21:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by kcastillo1220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right! They should butt out...it's HIS wedding, NOT theirs and he and his future wife can get married wherever they choose to do so.
There is nothing wrong with getting married at home as opposed to in a church. God is everywhere, not just at church.
I think having a wedding at home would be more intimate and cozy!
2006-10-14 21:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by Riviera_ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right to tell them to butt out, as you say it's his wedding if your family don't like the arrangements then they know what they can do - stay away. I hope your brother sticks to his guns. Have a great day.
2006-10-15 03:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your decision if you want your brother to marry at your house and his decision whether to marry in a church or not. If the family can't take it it is their problem. It isn't their wedding.
2006-10-14 22:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by marlenekay4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really up to the bride and groom
If the parents are paying, they should have some say so, but not make the final decision.
Church weddings are not for everyone.
2006-10-14 21:06:22 · answer #8 · answered by angelica_rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its his wedding him and his bride should have the final say so. A home wedding can be very beautiful and elegant and very personal.
2006-10-14 21:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by Francaise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents aren't paying for the wedding then your brother can do whatever he wants. If your parents don't like it, then they don't have to come.
2006-10-14 21:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋