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I work in a small office - only about 12 people. I am in a management position and he works in a different department. My company does not have a policy against it. We don't have to interact at work on a regular basis. Several of my friends in the office think he is really into me and wants to ask me out. However, he is quite a bit younger than me (9 years younger) and we have completely different lives - I have a young child. I don't get out often and so I don't meet guys that I find interesting and fun. Would it really be a terrible idea?

2006-10-14 13:58:58 · 22 answers · asked by working mother 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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I think so. However, my view may be slightly skewed because I'm a partner. I can't date employees because of potential "sexual harassment" suits, and I've seen office couples break-up and I get to lose an one or both employees.
I've also seen marriages literally tear a company apart and the livelihoods of all their employees get flushed down a toilet because of a relationship problem.
Finally, do you really want to be the reason behind little whispering conversations by the water fountain? Really? Being in management, you should understand that your job is to MANAGE, thus command the respect of those who you are responsible for. If they know your dating "that guy from the other department who is 9 years younger" what would they think of you? Will it make a tough job any easier?
Go out and date a guy not in the office that is 9 years younger. Heck, get a guy that is a strapping 18 and about hot as Arizona, just don't do this at work.

2006-10-14 14:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by MisterO 5 · 0 0

Not actually terrible; however, it could be a little bit akward, especially being a small office. You don't want everyone knowing your business (which is hard). 9 yrs is not that bad and if you really want to date him go ahead, but start out with a few phone calls away from the office to see where his head is at and if he likes children. Then express how you would like to keep things away from the office chit chat. Also, you have to consider once you do start dating how to keep the office chat down. It's your personal life that needs to stay personal (even the disagreements) and there will be disagreements between you and him. I wish you well.

2006-10-14 14:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Hi Amy, I have friends that have met their husbands in the same workplace. Of course, they had to keep their relationships quiet for a long while until they got serious. If you really want to get to know this guy then go ahead but I would keep it a secret in the office. If things get serious then you have no choice but to make your relationship public but then again if things don't work out will you be able to face this guy every day after that ?

2006-10-14 14:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by dd 3 · 0 0

Beware, especially since you work in a small office and are in a management position. If you want to get to know him better have an office night so that you two can talk and see if there is potential. Also you may want to talk to your boss about it because there maybe an underlying rule.

But my parents met at work and they have been married for 32 years.

good luck

2006-10-14 14:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 0 1

Get out more. It's a bad idea, quite possibly. You've got the little one to think of before plunging into office romances that might go sour.

2006-10-14 14:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1 0

Well all I can say is it could get sticky if it doesn't work out. Are you willing to accept this? Ten years makes a world of difference when maturity and wisdom are at stake but I wish you the best of luck. I'm not going to say if it is good or bad because only you can determine that.

2006-10-14 14:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0 1

If you don't have to interact on a daily basis, it really shouldn't become a problem. The age thing isn't an issue unless he's not @ least 21.

2006-10-14 14:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by redhead 2 · 0 1

If there is no poilicy, what do you have to lose? If you go, and it's terrible, you lost one night, if you have fun, then you at least have a budding friendship that hopefully turns into more. Good luck

2006-10-14 14:04:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well its not something I would do. If the relationship should fall at one of the hurdles and became difficult, you still have to work with this person.

2006-10-14 14:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 0 0

Well i just married a man 10yrs younger and we are doing GREAT..my kids love him..age is just a number..to me it is their maturity level..and i do not think anything is wrong with meeting someone from work..as like me i did not get out much....GO FOR IT!!!

2006-10-14 14:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by Dannielle W 1 · 0 1

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