Its nothing really serious but i need suggestions.I have been a voluptuous gal like all my life and my boyfriend really likes it but of late i have lost quite a lot of weight,not through dieting or exercise or illness but i just dont have any appetite and thats why.I have always wished to be a bit slender and am totally excited as everyone is complimenting me on my looks...everyone except my boo who is annoyed that i have lost weight and is literally feeding me to regain my weight saying if i dont regain he will leave me.I know he wont leave but what you think i shd do?
2006-10-14 13:48:26 · 16 answers · asked by Mikillah 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your boyfriend should love you no matter how big or small you are. maybe he is getting aggervated becuz maybe you have changed since you've lost the weight ( congrates by the way!! ) thats what happens sometimes and you don't even realize it. idk, just stay yourself, the person your boyfriend loves, and if he can't accept that then maybe he is just not worth it. hope i could help you out! and good luck!!!!
2006-10-14 13:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by kalyn s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how long you have been dating your b/f, but just from the outside and not knowing all of the details, it sounds as if he might have issues with your weight because he doesn't feel secure enough. What I mean by that is...he might be trying to keep you heavier so you won't get noticed by other men. If you are turning more heads, he might be concerned that you will lose interest in him or find someone "better". Just reassure him that he's the only one for you (if that's the case) and if not, then let him leave. Anyone who would place an ultimatum on you to gain or lose weight DOES NOT REALLY LOVE YOU.
2006-10-14 13:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by tallgirltexas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his ***. If you let him treat you like that he will continue untill you are so depressed because you dont look like he wants you to, that before long you will be taller sitting down than you are standing up, and when he is done with you he will find someone with the looks you had and there is your replacement. and now what to become of you. You will be a 600 pound woman who cant move because you can't breath when you do. You wont be able to fit in a normal ambulance and it will take 6 or more people to put you in said special fat *** ambulance. So take his *** to the curb and kick him into the next county.
2006-10-14 14:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he doesn't like the fact that you look better, feel better, and are more healthy now, let him leave! He is probably just insecure that other men will start noticing you more. If he really cared about you, he would not try to make you gain weight back.
2006-10-14 13:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by dh1977 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU are comfortable with the new weight then keep it up girl. YOU have to make YOURSELF happy before you make anyone else happy. He is probably afraid that more guys will want you now that the weight is gone. Girl WORK IT and don't let no man take your hapiness from you.
2006-10-14 13:52:04 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this relationship as soon as possible, this man has control issues, and it is not for you to fix. The situation will get progressively worse...
Ask any woman or man in, or was in a abusive relationship they will say the same as I have, this is the first of many levels of a destructive relationship...
2006-10-14 13:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much weight you lost. I hope you did not over do the weight loss thing and become so thin that you are unhealthy. If you did then try to get back to eating right and gain a little weight back. If you are not too thin then don't worry about it. Please yourself.
2006-10-14 13:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what makes you happy. it is YOUR body, not his. If being a little more slender makes you happy, gives you confidence and makes you healthier, by all means, you should do it and enjoy it. If your boyfriend really loves you, he will love you no matter how your body looks. He will care about YOUR happiness.
2006-10-14 13:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by mgirl883 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you feel good about yourself and you would like to stay that way. Tell him you love him and you thought he loved, but not just for you looks, and see what he says then. Good Luck
2006-10-14 13:52:09 · answer #9 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O_o;;; I think you should leave him. if he liked you because you were a certain weight and doesn't likeyou now that you've lost the weight and probably look much hotter now, then he doesn't deserve you
2006-10-14 13:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by High On Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋