I'm so bad at consoling people...I have no clue what to say.
2006-10-14 13:40:23 · 18 answers · asked by schizerbone 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm so sorry about your loss....that always seems appropriate along with a great big hug.
2006-10-14 13:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This answer is from someone that lost both parents within three months apart at age 19 then lost my husband 10 years ago. I have facilitated bereavement groups and now work in the death care industry.
I am so sorry for your loss. Period. If you wish to show with physical affection, ask first" can I give you a hug?".
If you are moved to help them physically do not say, call me if you need something. Show up at their house with your work clothes on and ask where is the lawn mower or vacuum cleaner.
2006-10-15 11:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ren 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When people are grieving, they are sad for themselves because they can not enjoy the presence of the person they miss. It's appropriate, then, for you to express your feelings of love for the grieving person. Statements about the deceased are not usually that helpful.
Therefore, instead of saying things like,
"He's in a better place."
Say things like, "I'm sorry for your loss. I just want to let you know that I care about you and I'm sorry you're going through a hard time."
2006-10-17 12:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can let the people come to you if they need help. Those matters can be really personal, and you might not want to be in the way. Or, you can just come up to them and ask if they might need any help, or someone that they want to talk to. Tell them that you are there for them whenever the time, and tell them to call if they need any assistance.
2006-10-14 21:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by xX Henry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends. Is this a close friend or a coworker or just an acquaintance?
Tell them you are very sorry for their loss, send flowers ( if it is a close friend), etc..
without knowing your relationship with this grieving person, it is hard for me to tell you what to say.
2006-10-14 20:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sage g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to say is to say nothing at all!!!
'Actions speak louder than words'!!! Just give them a hug, wipe out their tears, show them that you feel their sorrow. You must convey a point that no matter what happens, you'll always be there for them....it really helps.......trust me!
2006-10-14 20:44:51 · answer #6 · answered by Hasnain 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about the loss. May he/she rest in peace, free from the troubles of this world.
2006-10-14 22:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it simple; "I am so sorry about your loss", if you chose to say it in person or send a card with saying you and your family are in my thoughts (and prayers if you like).
2006-10-14 20:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by fenocian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i apreciate someone who just sits with me and doesn,t talk the b******t about better off, better places, you should be happy they,re not suffering any more, ect, ect. i,ve had several deaths in my imediate family and some friends who troubled me a lot when they died--also i am a christan--
2006-10-14 20:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by houdini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything at all. Say what is in your heart. I screwed up a few times by saying that ...hey, everybody is gonna die... don't do that... it doesn't 'fly' well. Take my word.
2006-10-14 20:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by eantaelor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋