He wears underwear all day and will ask for a diaper when he knows he has to go. He will not go unless he has a diaper on... even if it means holding it for hours. I try and try to make potty training fun and a pleasant experience but I am at the end of my wits! He is just being stubborn!
2006-10-14 13:33:14 · 18 answers · asked by Alma H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have worked with children for years, and my last year of experience has been in the potty training room. Your son is definitely too big to be wearing diapers! It's time for you to stop giving him that option. If he tells you that he needs a diaper, you can say "well if you're big enough to tell me that, then you're big enough to use the potty." Do not give him teh option, even if he throws a fit. If it means that he has a couple of accidents, so be it. You need to lay down the law and let him know that he is a big boy and it's no longer a choice for him to use diapers. You can also take away "big boy activities" like baseball or birthday parties. If he knows that his friends will be doing something and he wants to do it, then let him know that he needs to be a big boy like his friends who use the potty if he wants to play with them. Peer pressure works well that way.
Something else "fun" that you may not have tried is to tell him to "shoot it into the hole"...see if he can aim it into the hole where the water flushes. That worked well for one little boy that I potty trained. If he is scared to go poo poo, tell him that you will go with him and hold his hand...let him sit and read a book or drink some juice. You can also staple pictures onto the wall of children from magazines sitting on potties...taking a bath...charmin advertisements...etc. This will give him something to look at and you both can talk about the pictures together. This is a good distraction from the potty stress that they experience. When he does have success, make a HUGE deal out of it and let him know that you are proud.
Remember that he is too big to be manipulating you and that you are the boss! Let him know that diapers are no longer a choice and that his choices are either to go on himself or to go in the potty. GOOD LUCK!!
Oh, one other thing. If he does use a diaper or go on himself, make him clean it. Independent skills have a huge influence on potty training...they feel proud when they can change their clothes, but they also think it's gross to have to take off poopy underwear and wipe up poo poo from the floor. You may need to assist him if it's a very messy accident, but make him change his clothes and wipe himself off by himself. Tell him that he went on himself, so he needs to clean it up.
2006-10-14 13:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by ThisIsNotMyRealName 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-02 07:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to make it fun. He needs to use the potty. It's become a battle of wills with you both, and he's winning. Throw away all diapers, pullups, etc. Get them OUT OF THE HOUSE so you are not tempted. Then put the ball in his court. Tell him, "I am no longer going to nag you about going potty. You will go. If you choose not to use the toilet, you will go to your room for the rest of the day that day, even if it means missing meals, activities, etc, even if it's 10am." Then stick to what you said. He will test you maybe three times, then it will be OVER and he will be THERE. Trust me, I've done it.
2006-10-14 14:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried the candy method? He goes potty, he washes his hands, he gets a handful of his favorite candy. For me it was mnms. What are you asking him to do? Is he just expected to sit on the potty or stand and aim? If he's excpected to stand and aim and even if not heres some tips for the future, get those little flushable targets which can make things fun.
If the candy method doesn't work then have dear old dad show him how its done.
2006-10-14 14:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he needs a little more motivation give him prizes for every time he goes to the potty and dose it right you can find potty charts to put stickers on examples work to tell him that big boys like daddy use the potty or his favorite cartoon character uses the potty see if that will help
2006-10-14 14:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by chuy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you remember when you were a wee wee tot?
and your mother sat you on a wee wee pot
and made you wee wee whether you wanted to or not?
I've seen this work with some sucess. "don't get up until i see something there". I wonder if your son is scared of the bogieman in the potty. we had a small potty for our son and worked up to the big one [a little seat that fitted onto the big one].
He named it ooh-ie, and visiting ooh-ie was great fun. I would find out what he is afraid of, he definately knows when he has to go
2006-10-14 13:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by La-z Ike 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have you taken him to the doctor? I'm wondering if he is looking for attention. Don't pressure him. I've always believed that they will go when they are ready however, 4 is pretty old for not using the potty. You might ask your Pediatrician. Good luck
2006-10-14 13:43:31 · answer #7 · answered by blue_id_baby05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mel is right! Don't give him the diaper option. Throw them all out, and show him that you are throwing them all out! Tell him that they are all gone and that you are not buying them anymore. You have shown him what to do, and most 4 year olds are more than capeable of understanding the concept. When my son pooped in his pants, I put him in the bathtub and told him he had to clean up...realistically being 4, he didn't do the greatest job and I had to help him after he got started, but after having to clean up his own poop, the problem was solved.
2006-10-14 13:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by chelebeee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everything is a tradeoff..... If he potties - you'll.......... It's not really a bribe - it's more of a 'trade'...... I'm sure there are things you know he loves - or enjoys his favorite food......
It's more of a IF YOU - then I WILL....... Get ready to know how to 'negotiate' because as they get older - EVERYTHING is like that... As they get older, they will have to meet their end of what is acceptable to get 'permissions' from you.....so this is good practice.
Look at it from his end....."what's in it for him?"...... answer that question - and I think he'll want to cooperate.
2006-10-14 13:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by longhats 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-14 15:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋