Help with my children.?

Question

I have four children and the two oldest kids are always fighting every time i yell i fell like crying like i am doing something wrong with them my 9 year old boy likes to start it all the time with my 13 year old girl and she goes with all the time i would like someone that know what i am going thougt to help.

Answer 1

more information needed. if what you are lookin for is help with how to approach your children so they learn to communicate with each other more effectively then more information is needed on ages....if their father is there....what the home is like....do they have there own rooms.....all kinds of stuff like that. maybe seek a family counsellor for help like that. someoen to come in and help everyone understand how to live together and resolve problem situations. but if your looking for advise on how to help you deal with the stress. take time out. no matter what goes on....dedicate one evening for yourself. wake up a bit early to take each day to pray and meditate. spend time helping yourself relieve your stress so you can approach your children on a more calmer level so they feel the peace. they can feel your stress to when you bottle it up. no matter what their ages are...children still feel this from their parents. so find a way to relieve the stress and it will help you to interact with them with more ease...and they will feel it and may themselves feel less stress in themselves.

Answer 2

I kinda know what you're going thru. Less kids but the same thing. My 9 year old knows how to push her 11 year old sister's buttons. They have gotten to the point where even when I tell them to quit it, they still go at it. I had to go back to the old school on them. I yanked everything out of their room. Nothing left but the bed and dresseres. We are now going on a "point" system. They have to earn back their things. And there are no more chances. If it continues, their computer, phone, games, dvd, satellite, everything will be permanently gone. I refuse to let them drive me insane.

Answer 3

First make rules no yelling and that means you too.your 13 yr girl needs to feel you trust her and need her.ask her to help out more in the house and you take more care of the others,Let her have special time with you.Your nine yr old show him the bar of soap for his mouth and time out. Remind the girl she is mature and just avoid trouble with the 9 yr old..talk to teacher at school. you didnt mention a father! If not go to one of those free big brothers for your Son.

Answer 4

Insist that they go out back and fight it out once and for all, No rules. I did that with two of mine. They get along great now, and have been for 15 years now. They are the best of friends.

Answer 5

I had to teach my kids fair fighting tactics. Each got to say what they wanted to say without interruption, then the next one got to say what they had to say with out interruption, then, since I was Mom, I got to decide who was right. I am fair, and not at all understanding if the fair fighting rule is broken.

Answer 6

give them tasks where they have to work together to accomplish them (like cleanning the dishes and kitchen after supper) and if they don't do it then take away everything they care about (tv, toys, phone), until they learn to get along.

Answer 7

brothers and sisters like to pick on each other. try to have them do things together and if they cant get along to stay away from eachother.

Answer 8

Here is something that really helped me!
I dont know how to put links in here so i wll just type it ok?

www.teenhelp.com/teen-issues/sibling-rivalry.html

there ya go. trust me this WILL help........