How does a guy convince himself that the girl he's into isn't into him?

Question

......And where does he go from there?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear that. I recently got out of a 2 year thing and it still bothers me. I haven't found a way to really convince my self but I'm just trying to keep busy so I don't think about him. If you want to talk you can say hi to me on sexylilgirl_idealmgf. I wish you the best though.

Answer 2

I'm not quite sure what you mean. If a guy is convincing himself a girl he likes isn't into him, then I guess it means he needs a confidence boost or he just doesn't feel worthy of her, which is usually nonsense. He should just talk to her and ask her out, and see what she says. As to how he does the convincing, I suppose it's telling himself stuff along the lines of 'how on earth would a girl like that ever fancy me? Don't be stupid, she's not actually flirting, I'm imagining it'.

This sounds crazy, but I think men do it all the time. Women flirt with you - this means they like you. If a woman talks to you, laughs at your stupid jokes, hangs around with you, asks your opinion, looks into your eyes when she's talking to you, asks you to the movies or for lunch or for coffee or whatever, SHE LIKES YOU. There's no big mystery.

I hope I've answered your question. I fear I may have gone off on a subjective tangent, based on recent events in my own life. :)

Answer 3

I do not think it is a matter of convincing , she is or she isn't. If she isn't spend a little while trying to find out why, take that as a lesson and move forward. sounds simple, but it may be difficult if you are not ready to let go. then it is a case of doing what is right, which may not be in you best interest, however in the end if it all you will have grown a little in wisdom

Answer 4

I would hope that you could be a little more specific than this...why would you want to do that unless she was NOT into you? If she is NOT interested, why would you need to convince yourself she isn't..she must have made it very clear. IF so, then move on and enjoy life. We all take fancy to somethings in life that do not fancy us back...it is at those times we say, "Next" and move on with our lives...where does the "convincing" come in? Surely you do not live in a dream world of fairy tales. Good luck

Answer 5

Its not something you convince yourself of its just something you accept. Not everyone you are into at the moment is going to be into you at the same time. Who knows someday she may notice a thing or two but until then go out with friends, have fun, and try to put the whole thing out of your head. The next thing you know you'll be into someone else and they may be into you too.

Answer 6

Ermm i'm not too sure what you're actually asking there, but i'll answer what I think you mean anyway. From experience, its pretty much just doubt. There was this one girl who looking back at it now, blatantly liked me, but at the time I still wasnt sure if she did. I think it was due to lack of self confidence, that i didnt think there was a chance that this girl could like me. Its also partly due to doubt, especially if you always analyse everything she does to you and are thinking of asking her out. Hope this is what you meant!

ps. i would grealty appreciate it if someone could reply to my question titled - 'what can I do?' Thanks!

Answer 7

just takes abit of time if you really do like someone. find other interests until yr ready to start back out on the dating scene again. read tips on dating and more to help you on this site

Answer 8

well for one stop thinking about her that will help alot and for second start looking for someone else go out with ur friends and try to find ur self a new girl.

Answer 9

just fill ur mind with other stuff... i personally HATE to have a crush cuz it always seems to end like this, but if it happens you just gotta keep livin ur life

Answer 10

Are you just being needy? Learn to listen to yourself. It's not about whether she likes you. It's about whether you like yourself. Try building yourself up with your strong points, not with hers.