why does my 9 year old feel compelled to argue with me everytime i try to explain something to her?

Answer 1

"Normal"! If you say 'white' she will say 'black'. She is going to be this way for a long, long time. Its about a 10 year phase. Listen to her, but make sure the final call is your way. Pick your battles. If you don't you will die from exhaustation! :)

Answer 2

Its the age! She is trying to show you that
1.) She is "mature"
2.) that she feels smart and confident

I would worry more about teaching her how to disagree without arguing and to accept the fact that sometimes she knows more about things that you, and sometimes you know more than her. And thats the bottom line.

Good luck - I have that problem with my six year old. LOL - but the above helps. I will ask her questions she really does know and act like Id ont know (like about her fave book, or about a show) then she can feel "smarter" than me about something that is not that big of a deal, right? LOL

Answer 3

my nepew is the same way he is 10 now and when he was 9 he argued u like ur 9 yr old did my sister says its a per teen thing the age r from i think not sure 9-12 and then there teens when 13 but its a pre teen thing they acted like a kid sometimes and sometimes they act like a teenager its a preteen thing

Answer 4

Because you let her.It is O k for a child to express themselves,but there is a difference in talking with her and her arguing back when to tell her to do something.In my opinion you need to get that under control.There are some things that you say to her that do not deserve a response,and you should tell her so.If you don't do it now you are going to have a harder time with her when she gets older,and that could mean trouble.

Answer 5

because of the way u play up with her the next time she do that just ***** slap her cross her face and she will stop

Answer 6

Maybe you didn't make yourself more forceful when she was younger? Or maybe it's just her age.

Answer 7

better get that kid to respect you