Seeing this dude for 8 months now. Recently he hasnt been as attentive as in the past as in texting as much, or calling as much but we still share alot of time together. Intimacy is stronger than before, but I guess I notice any changes no matter how small they may be. Deep inside me I feel that I am losing him and I am very sad. Should I worry about the small changes or just let it go?Should I assume he is tired of me and wants out? A while back we made a promise to each other that if the other one wanted out, we would say so.. not to just ignore each other, however he knows how attached to him I am. I wonder if he is just stringing me out to see if I will call it quits to save him from guilty feelings. Anyone have any advice?
Seeing this dude for 8 months now. Recently he hasnt been as attentive as in the past as in texting as much, or calling as much but we still share alot of time together. Intimacy is stronger than before, but I g
2006-10-14 13:10:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-10-14 13:12:11 · update #1
i think that yall will do just fine. he's just a man. routine is not their thing. if he's still making u feel like your #1 then let the little things go and just give him his space. texting cost money as well as daytime min. maybe he's looking at it that way or just suggest getting unlimited texts and see where does that take you.
2006-10-14 13:19:48 · answer #1 · answered by krittlette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be getting too comfortable with you. Maybe you two have been together long enough that he isn't trying to win you over anymore and he feels like you are going to be there no matter what. You should talk to him and ask him if he wants out. If the answer is no tell him that you would like for him to treat you like he used to. That you really loved the texts and phone calls and it made you feel closer to him and it also reassures you that he still feels the same way about you. Communication is the key. It is what my boyfriend and I were lacking until last night!! lol
2006-10-14 13:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him if he is tired of you, if he gives you the runaround he is if he answers quickly then he is not. This guy sounds a lot like me before i got married, I called alot and we talked for hours, but all the time I did tell her I hated talking on the phone and would rather talk face to face. We have been married for 2 years now and have been together for 3. So with out knowing how you talk to each other face to face I cant say one way or another, so the easiest way for you to find out is to be blunt and just ask him. I hope I have helped.
2006-10-14 13:20:33 · answer #3 · answered by joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't call it quits to save him from guilty feelings. You said so yourself, you two made a promise to tell each other whenever one of you started to lose feeligns for one another. So I think that if that was the case, he'd come right out and say so. Maybe he's been really busy with school and juggling a couple of other things. You can ask him if hes too shy to say it out by himself. So brign the topic up and see what he has to say. Because if you bring the topic up. He most definitly will say out whatever hes feeling, good or bad.
2006-10-14 13:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by Liliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, sometimes in a relationship guys get lazy and stop putting in all the effort. I dont really think you have much to worry about, but if it is worrying you, maybe you should just ask him out straight why he hasnt been as attentive as usual, it could be that he's more busy now, i dont know cos i dont know the whole relationship, but maybe you should just talk to put your mind at rest, thats what i would do. Good luck!
2006-10-14 13:17:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can be intimate with a friend...if u want to know ask him...once.
Be real and make a decision based on what he says...dont sugarcoat his answer just move on if its not no baby im just depressed the Raiders didnt win!
2006-10-14 13:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by BELLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when a relationship 1st starts it's all lovey dovey but after a while it does calm down and u guys get more comfy. I wouldn't worry to much
2006-10-14 13:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest you step to hom about it. He will never know you are having these issues if you don't bring them to his attention. Ask him exactly what's on your mind. One thing I have definitely learned about any kind of relationship: you can't assume anything.
2006-10-14 13:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by Trice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and him made a promise, if he is as great as you say he is then he will understand if you ask him about it, you have to know if he loves you, if he does he won't judge you for asking such a question and you need to be direct so he doesn't think you want to "get out"
2006-10-14 13:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by Pinky Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel this way then you should sit him down and have a talk with him tell him how you feel, and why you are worried about your relationship trust me honey it works i did it with my boyfriend and our relationship changed just be honest with him
2006-10-14 13:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋