i posted some questions earlier concerning my friends recent death...my question is if this is normal like i feel very sexual right now as if i would have sex with anyone and lget up and leave...without attachment? i have never done this nor do i want to, i beleive sex should be in a stable relaitonship with people who are in love...but i dont know why i feel like this...is this normal or not?
2006-10-14 12:57:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Dunno... Women are complex. But keep your morales and have a steady relationship. Here's my thumbs-up to you!
2006-10-14 13:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Experiencing the loss of someone close to you can trigger some bizarre emotions sometimes. The first thing I would have to ask you is if you have truly dealt with your loss? Have you taken the time to really grieve your friednds death? Have you resolved in your mind to say goodbye and move on? I admire the fact that you have no desire to act upon how you are feeling and I agree with you that Sex is best saved for those that you are committed to and in love with. The act of Sex satisfies the emotional and physical feeling of not being alone. Perhaps, you feel alone because of the death of your friend. I would suggest that you surround yourself with those that love you, take some time to say goodbye to your friend and begin to move on. I think you will be just fine. Let me know.
2006-10-14 20:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Tom R 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're describing an extreme reaction to grief, one that is quite possibly triggered from earlier events in your life. The desire to become sexual with someone and then depart suggests a use of sexuality as a comfort, a physical release that in some ways calms yourself. But your ambivalence suggests some recognition on your part that this is not genuinely helpful to you.
Many people who describe events like this have trauma histories that involve sexual intimacy before they were old enough to make sense of the strong emotions involved. (I'm not suggesting that's 100% certain, but it's a strong possibility.) This behavior has some risks attached, and since you're doing it against your own better judgment, you're less likely to take precautions to reduce your risk.
Call a local bereavement counselor, a psychotherapist, or your doctor to tell them what's going on. Together you can work on a plan that helps you deal with the recent death of your friend and helps you make sense of your sexual impulses.
2006-10-14 20:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
It is a reaction to your friends death believe it or not. Your friend left you and this hurt you deeply i believe. What you are trying, if only subconsciously, is to try and get revenge on your friend for leaving you. You want to prove that you cannot be hurt or that you are not hurt anymore by using the one thing you consider good. What you must come to grips with is that your friend didn't die to hurt you. Its just life. Think of the good times you both had and remember he/she,if given the choice, would probably rather be alive and with you then the other way around.
2006-10-14 20:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's a very common reaction to death. It's a need to feel alive, and sex is the most basic, most primal way to do so.
If you can, find a counselor to talk to. If you're religious, you can find help through them. If not, there are usually county programs to get you in touch with low-cost counseling if you need it.
Don't think you're weird for feeling this way. It IS normal.
Good luck to you, and I'm sorry about your friend.
2006-10-14 20:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by Cracea 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is normal to transfer repressed feelings into other areas of your life to be acted out. Everyone does it. It is not healthy. You may not even realize that you are repressing feelings about the death of your friend. A pastoral counselor can help. THey are therapist wiht theological as well as counseling degrees and can work with you on a personal and faith level to bring closure and develop healthy ways of coping.
Here is the one in my area I would recommend http://www.tripastoralcounseling.org/
Read through their site and you should know what to look for.
2006-10-14 20:04:38 · answer #6 · answered by mike g 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's very normal but I really hope you don't go thru with it. Trust me it won't be worth it and could actually ruin your life. Sometimes people use sex as an escape and maybe your friends death is why. I really care and I'm so glad to hear you don't want to.
2006-10-14 20:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by Brianne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's normal. You probably miss him and miss being close
I just lost someone too and I think that it's normal to feel a whole lot of very confusing things right now
2006-10-14 20:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You may be mis-directing your emotions from the friend's death, in that you need to feel CLOSE to someone to take the friend's place temporarily. OR you may be having a hormone surge, which occurs about once a month in women. OR perhaps a mixture of both?
2006-10-14 20:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by Rainfog 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just a thought, but maybe this death has caused you to question or even doubt your faith (provided you have one). and maybe you're starting to resent all of the religious stuff that people have always told you because you don't really believe it as much any more. and maybe this resentment is leading you to rebel against things that are tied into to religion, like abstinence. ----- just a thought.
2006-10-14 20:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by tobykeogh 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It has to do with a desire to reaffirm life. It is instinctive and normal. If you are married then go for it. If not your choice but I would find another way to do this. Such as volunteer or write.
2006-10-14 20:04:38 · answer #11 · answered by Debra M. Wishing Peace To All 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋