A young couple has moved into the apt directly upstairs from me and they walk like elephants! I've lived here over 4 yrs and never, ever has anyone been so noisy or annoying, even 3 college students who had wild parties up there! The entire place shakes, sometimes my pictures tilt and objects fall from shelves, and it sounds as if they are stomping, jogging and deliberately dropping bowling balls. Their richocheting has even woken me from deep sleep and kept houseguests awake of mine awake whether I put them in the bedroom or in the livingroom!! From what I've heard of them they sound a bit rude and crude in their language and I don't feel they'll be very accomodating. I'm just finding it impossible to enjoy living here or concentrating on work, watching tv, having friends over- it's embarrassing and angering. What do you think? Ask them directly to try to be more graceful or go to the management?
2006-10-14 12:53:11 · 15 answers · asked by SWMynx 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You need to talk to them directly.
If you go straight to management and management approaches them, they'll know it was you. (After all, how many other people live in the apartment below them? It's not like a barking dog complaint where it could have been any of several neighbors.)
Then you will have a real situation on your hands. If you think it's intimidating to talk to them now, wait until they are mad at you for complaining to the landlord without having given them an opportunity to do anything about the noise!
The friendly, direct approach is best. Try to keep it light and don't start out by accusing them of doing anything on purpose. Approach it from the standpoint that you're sure they have no idea how much the noise carries and that you know they'll want to help you out.
People like to be asked for help; they hate being told they're the problem. Try a little diplomacy and see how it goes.
2006-10-14 13:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by sparticle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately they probably know. Most likely why they had to move where they were to where are now. Sadly their ex landlord may have given them a good reference just to get rid of them. You can try being nice, and approaching them, but I doubt it will get you anywhere. Advice your landlord, or file complaint with the landlord tenant association. Be prepared for a lot of nastiness though. Most people like this are real jerks once you've complained about them. Do you feel like Moving? I don't mean to sound cold, as I am in the same situation. The woman upstairs from where I live also walks like an elephant, fights with here children and behaves like a child herself. etc. I should have realized she had problems before living here when a few weeks after moving in she asked "Do we sound loud when we are walking around in the apartment" I'd already decided the situation was pretty hope less so just said no. A lot of other problems followed, and now I just ignore her., and hope she is just as irresponsible with the landlord as she is with me. (and goes away real soon)
I am going to add to this. I answered this question yesterday. Today the woman upsairs overflowed her toilet to a ponit that it soaked my batheroom ceiling, and dripped down my walls. She also did laundry after 11:00 Pm unbalanced the machine (because she over loaded it--as usual), I had tos top it rearrange her laundry, as she claims she doesnt even hear it. Anyway. I live in a duplex, any complaint I make I make to her because if I complain to the landlord she will know where it came from and then things will just get worse. If you live in a multi tennent building don't complain to the couple go to management. I don't think they can tell her you complained. Someone else commented on asking the police about what you can do, I believe there is actually a law about how loud noise can be. Anyway good luck, still think your going to need it more than me.
2006-10-14 13:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by mld m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notify the superintendant of the building and get you peers that live in the same building to file a petition to quiet them down. If that doesn't work call the police and report a domestic disturbance, which should work since that's what it sounds like is going on upstairs. There are several other options before you use the police option though, and if it comes about that they are not having a domestic abuse you can get charged with the call by the police to pay for them coming to check out what in essence is not a domestic dispute but a couple of huge clods that cannot walk softly. You might even ask the police for an opinion about what you should do.
2006-10-14 13:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was going to write a funny response, but having read all your question, I do sympathies with you. I had the same problem some years ago, with my neighbours - shouting all the time, playing loud music and having parties which did not end until 1000hrs the next day.
I tried talking to them and this would work for a day or two but then it would start again. The Police were called on several occasions, but they were powerless to intercede. Eventually I contacted the Noise Abatement Dept (Environmental Agency) and they wrote to them - I also had to keep a diary of events. I didn't hold out much hope - but it worked. The noise stopped and some months later they moved out!
So, maybe you could try that and get your other neighbours to do the same - you shouldn't have to put up with it!
Good luck
2006-10-14 13:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep playing Nelly the elephant really loud every time you hear them walking about. Leave them some currant buns to eat. post pictures of elephants through their door along with a letter addressed to the zoo keeper, asking if he could keep the herd living their quieter. Failing all this speak to the management of the unit and express your concerns. things can be done about about it, hopefully without you getting too involved. why not ask others in the building if they have the same problem and to go the management together?
2006-10-16 02:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you first need to make a formal complaint to the office and get a copy of the complaint in writing along with a copy of what the leasing company is going to do, and a time line that this problem is going to be resolved. if it is not solved within that time line, then you have established a legal out from your lease. you should never talk to the people above you about any complaints, that is what the office is there for (except when you are being flooded).
good luck.
2006-10-14 13:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by barrbou214 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to make war with the neighbors, but sometimes you just have to complain to the manager.
I suppose you could nicely say, could you try to walk a little quieter, since this place we live in wasn't built good enough to stop noise.
You could say, the floors are so thin I can hear both of you doing it, so you really need to becareful of noise.
2006-10-14 12:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by You may be right 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides placing Peanuts on the porch, I'd ask them to be more
conscious of you downstairs. Tell them they're to noisy.
Invite them over while someone romps around up there so they can hear how they sound to you.
2006-10-15 23:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by anitababy.brainwash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to them about it. They sound very rude, so if they are rude to you when you try to talk to them then go to the management or if it keeps happening after you've already talked to them go to mangement
2006-10-14 13:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Sydd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go get ear plugs from walmart we used to live in apartments they were way to loud our walls used to shake from ther music.
2016-05-22 02:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋