I work in a small office - only about 12 people. I am in a management position and he works in a different department. My company does not have a policy against it. We don't have to interact at work on a regular basis. Several of my friends in the office think he is really into me and wants to ask me out. However, he is quite a bit younger than me (9 years younger) and we have completely different lives - I have a young child. I don't get out often and so I don't meet guys that I find interesting and fun. Would it really be a terrible idea?
2006-10-14 12:49:51 · 18 answers · asked by working mother 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm also in a managerial position and I can give you an honest answer, but I suspect you don't really want to hear it. The fact that your friends are aware of the situation leads me to think that these office friends will eventually gossip about the situation, and as a manager, this is not good--yuo have a child to support and he doesn't, I assume. The fact that he's 9 years younger doesn't have to be a problem, but you need to ask yourself: what if this doesn't work out--what will be the repercussions? You've probably heard the expression, "Never get your meat where you get your bread," and there's some validity to it. Tread very very carefully. Personally, I wouldn't do it--but you're not me.
2006-10-14 12:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is a bad idea for you both. With a company so small there is really no way that it would work. If it crashes and burns up in your face, then you have created a situation where no one will be comfortable at work. In a company so small it is not like you will not have to work together... then, even if it turns out to be a great thing and a long-term relationship, it will still change the dynamic at work for everyone there. One of you would probably have to quit and find another job. I think that you should ignore the infatuation and let it pass. Good Luck.
2006-10-14 12:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the company has no policy against it, and you can keep the personal and professional sides of your lives as separate as possible, then I would say go for it, but real slow.
Relationships in the workplace can turn against you in a second . How would the two of you handle lovers issues when they come up? Think about that while you are getting acquainted.
Age is no issue. If you do not care about his age, why should you bother what people might think or say?
2006-10-14 12:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah it is! At first itll be fun cause you guys can have a quicky when no ones around, but if it doesnt work out in the long run you might just make an enemy that you have to see every day at work.
2006-10-14 13:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd never have an office romance — it would distract me from why I'm at the office in the first place. But you seem to have gotten pretty far there already, so if you keep it as secret as possible, I'm sure it'll be OK.
2006-10-14 13:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOD, no. Go for it. If the ages were reversed and he was the one with the young child, nobody would bat an eyelid. Go for it, and good luck to you, and well done for catching the attention of a cute younger man - you must be a splendid lady indeed. I hope it works out well for you!
2006-10-14 12:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Sinead C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it wouldn't be. If it is hard for you to meet other guys and he feels romantically attracted to you, then you should see what happens. However, if you have a lot of other opportunities, then you should stay away from the office romance thing.
2006-10-14 12:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
doesnt matter if he's younger but office romance is kinda risky and what about if it becomes more than a fling
couples always tend to bring problems from home to the office
2006-10-14 12:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by axlrose 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TERRIBLE IDEA especially if you are supporting a child.
First, the employer doesn't like it and you could get blackballed. Second, if things go sour, and they probably will, it will make it impossible to work with each other and someone will have to go and it might be you.
Don't jeopardize your livelihood and your child's well-being.
"Don't sh*t where you eat."
2006-10-14 12:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by skept1c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BAD BAD BAD idea!
If it goes sour and you don't part on good terms (and that could be the case even if you both SWEAR up and down you will both be able to handle it) work will become an awful place to be...
Don't do it!
2006-10-14 12:52:28 · answer #10 · answered by ilovetiti 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋