me and my boyfriend have been going out for four months and we have nerve been sexually active, but we both want to i think i wanna wait but sometimes i want to and its kinda like peer pressure except im willing sometimes but can't do it..the reason why is that a while back alot of people had been sayin he had AIDS and stuff like that but when i asked my cousin she said she never heard it, what if he actually does have AIDS i don't wanna break up with him because i love him and im only 15 he is 17 and im scared of the concequinces...NEED ADVICE
2006-10-14 12:44:47 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would he have AIDS? Do you not know him that well. If not, do not have sex with someone you do not know well enough that could change you whole life's outlook with a single temporary pleasurable moment.
You are very young. You should have to be thinking about things so serious. Once you have sex with someone, you cannot take it back, and you cannot take back the fact that you have in effect slept with everyone he's slept with by sleeping with him.
Think about it. If he loves you, not only will he get an AIDS test for you (if you cannot ask him to do that for you, then you shouldn't be with him), but he will wait at least until you're 18. Did you know that when he turns 18, he could be considered a child molester if he has sex with you while you're under 18?
Whatever you do, don't rush into anything that could have a life-altering affect to you or your body. And don't drink or take any other mind-altering drug which will cloud your sense of good reasoning. You'll be glad you did once you have matured, and you will have avoided so much unnecessary pain to yourself in the meantime.
Enjoy your young womanhood. You only have it once, so treasure it.
2006-10-14 12:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you are underage so say no-then say no again! Dont even consider it. You are holding back because you are not ready to do this. As far as aids is concerned if you have the slightest reason to think he has this then you must get him to get tested before you have a serious relationship let alone a sexual one. Why would he have aids? Is he using needles? If he is-then forget him and if he isnt then you need to find out where these stories started. They may be lies but you risk your life when you have sex with someone and you are too young and truly, you just do not know what you are doing. Dont do it-you have all of your life ahead of you-dont take silly chances.
2006-10-14 12:52:14 · answer #2 · answered by angeldust 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What would I do if i could turn back the hands of time. Girl you are to young to be thinking about sex to have a boyfriend for that matter. I have a daughter your age and if i can help it she is not allowed to date. You need to be focused on your schooling like for instance you need to focus in your spelling class to know how to correctly spell consequences or at least have the smarts to use the check spelling. I'm not saying this to put you down or anything, this is just to let you know you are heading down the wrong road. Don't do it protect your jewel and save it for the husband that God has for you. To date someone is to get to know the person. Know what a person likes, what a person dosen't like. etc. Alot of people have the wrong idea about dating they think that sex is apart of dating. Sex falls in the catagory of marriage. Premature Sexual relations does nothing but causes heartaches and brings unwanted diseases sometmes. Never say it can't happen to you. And you say you love this guy let me tell you you don't know what love is I just turned 35 this month and I just learned what love was at 34. Baby girl take it from me turn around and focus on getting through school and college. Become a woman of standard. Keep your panties on and your legs closed make your mother proud of you. Like i always tell my daughter it's okay to be different it's okay to be a virgin I wish someone would have told me that when i was 15. Baby girl i hope you take heed to this message. DON'T MESS YOUR LIFE UP in the long run this guy will be long gone and many more will come and go but you don't have to put yourself in that situation. learn to conquer the peer pressure. Think about it like this you get pressured into having sex you get aids, vd or any STD the same ones who pressured you will talk about you and laugh at you when they find out you are infected with something.
2006-10-14 15:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by tajwf 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have heard some rumours they may just be Bullshit, but for your own saftey I would sit down with him tell him you have heard these rumours and you would like him to get tested before you start having sex if he cares about you he will understand. there is a chance he may be upset but just explain to him that if the situation was the other way round he would most likely want you to get tested. Aids is a terrible thing be strong look after number one your young so don't stress if this thing does not work out remember you come first you need to look after you first. Y ou have already taken the first step into being responcible about your life by asking for advise. take care good luck!
2006-10-14 13:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberley A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. If you're not ready, then don't. And if there's even a CHANCE that he might have AIDS then, DON'T!! Absistence is the best and only protection against sexaully transmitted diseases. And you're too young to be having sex anyhow. You're young, save yourself until you know in your heart the time is right and you are ready and with the right person, etc..etc..Don't think I'm an adult here talking down to you, because I'm not. I'm 14. I know what peer pressure feels like, but you have to live above the influence. Be careful. Feel free to email me if you need further advice. Bless you.
2006-10-14 12:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kiara 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to have a boyfriend at 15, (I know alot of people are doing it) but to be sexual active at any age before your married is wrong, even at the age of 15, a 4 month relationship isn't really all that long.If there's a rumor going around, which might be true don't even take that chance. "Warning comes before destruction", don't be decieved,Is this guy worth your life being taken away from you. AIDs is no joke you shouldn't even consider having sex with him after that rumor, your cousin would only know that the rumor isn't true if she went with him to get tested. You might think that your in love with him, but if he's pressuring you, he obviously doesn't love you back. And often what we think is love is only infactuation, meaning that basically you just like him alot. Your only 15 you have your whole life ahead of you. If he is worth your life, take him to the clinic to get a AIDs test,if he loves you he'll go. then take it from there. I'm 15 too and the worst part about being young is not having wisdom,a nd dealing with guys. I have had bf's who tell me they love me, and turn around and hurt me, fortunately i've gotten over them, and learned that I'm still young and to wait patiently for that right guy, and I'm still a virgin, If I would have had sex with these guys I would have really been hurt. If he is the right guy he would never pressure you into doing anything, and he's older than you. He would be more concerned about your education than having sex with you. And to be honest with you if he was the right guy, he wouldn't even want to have sex with you, but he would encourage you to wait till your married. I'm telling right now that no matter how much you love him, or he claims to love you, he's not the one. The right guy would tell you to wait till your married even if you want to. If your still a virgin, don't give up your innocence. Your worth waiting for, and if he can't wait or is pressuring you, then he's not worth your time, even if your not a virgin. Don't risk your life, and cause your family pain. And if you want to have sex with him anyway, take him to get tested first, your life is at stake here.
2006-10-14 13:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by I ♥ Jesus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him the only way you will have sex with him is if he gets tested because you are scared cuz you have heard of so many people who have std and aids you don't want to take the chance. also when I was younger I wanted to have sex when I was still a virgin. I just didn't want to be a virgin because it was so cool to not be and plus I just wanted to know what it was like. well let me tell you I wish now that I was still a virgin. in someways I don't but in most ways I do. think of it like this you could live for 100 years and most of your life you are not going to be a virgin only 15, 13, 18 , 20 who knows. So hold on to it as long as you can. life gets more complicated after you loss your virginity. so good luck
2006-10-14 13:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he respects you, he won't pressure you, and my goodness your only 15, I lost my virginity at 18 and it wasn't to my husband, I wish I could of waited, Do you know how many guys that are gonna come in and out of your life, your so young and have alot of things ahead of you.. I'm not telling you what to do, but make sure you are willing to face the consequences of your actions and use protection. Good luck
2006-10-14 12:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by Windy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it doesnt feel like the right time for you then don't do it until you're ready. Don't let him pressure you. If he pressures you then he doesn't care about you or your feelings. If you do decide to go on make sure he uses a condom that YOU got. If there is even a remote chance that he could have AIDS (which a person should always assume) then I say don't risk your life for him
2006-10-14 12:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The answer is no...
aside from the fact that you should NEVER EVER submit to peer pressure and that you are so young...
whether it is a rumor or not, you have to work under the assumption everyone you date could have an STD (even HIV or AIDS, my dear).
Is it worth your life?!? Having sex with him?
When you are mature enough to ask someone to get tested for STD's, then maybe you'll be ready to have sex (WITH CONDOMS... ALWAYS with condoms...)
2006-10-14 12:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by ilovetiti 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋