what if you've lived your whole life alone and you know for a fact that not even one person will ever love you? how is it possible to be happy and accept that? i'm very confused and dont know what to do? i feel so hopeless and sad and its making me lazy as hell too. i have no motivation to do anything anymore but just sit at home....tell me what i'm suppose to do.
2006-10-14 12:42:27 · 26 answers · asked by mr_fury666 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This may sound funny, but its true. Exercise and lift weights. By improving your body , you will build confidence. Eventually you will talk to girls and start getting dates.
2006-10-14 12:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin Federline 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Always do what you CAN do. There is always something! I go to the gym and it gives me such energy that I can accomplish much more than when I never went to the gym. I make better choices because I am healthy and feel good from working out regularly. It doesn't matter if I am alone. I like it. No one to complain or want you to do for them.
You thinking that it is a fact that no one will love you is not going get you any attention. When someone does look you won't see it with that belief. Do something to build up your self-esteem and others will recognize this and you will be approchable.
Your attitude the way it is makes you unapproachable and non- attractive to others. Change yourself and it will cause a change in your social world, I promise this!
2006-10-14 19:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by moire1111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly it doesnt sound like you love yourself, and you cant expect anyone else to Love you if You dont even love yourself.. and although it seems like you are down on yourself I think if you really put some time into just accepting yourself the way you are, you will find out you are not so bad ;)
Happiness is not in getting what you want, but in wanting what you have..
Try to find peace and happiness within the life that you have, and the good things will come to you .. Im sure of it. Just be yourself and be open to meeting lots of new people, and someone will come into your life and see the good things that you see in yourself!
And btw dont listen to any of the yawhoos that told you to change yourself! that isnt the answer.. if there are things that you dont like about yourself, sure.. change if the change is something you want for yourself, but dont change to get someones attention or approval.. thats just not going to make you happy.. be true to yourself!
Peace!
2006-10-14 21:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is loveable. It sounds like you have a core belief that you are unloveable. If you send out the message that you are unloveable that's what you get back. The only way to change that is through hard work like counseling, journaling, reading, volunteering, and testing the waters. Also you need to be open to being loveable and that's the hardest part because you probably close yourself off to protect yourself from rejection. Its difficult to face but trust me its worth it. I've been there and I believe most people at some level feel they are unloveable. Don't buy into that lie, everyone is loveable.
2006-10-14 19:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by NanD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is changing every second of every day. You just have to see it. You need to get out and be around people, even if you don't want to. It helps. Also, you need to be happy with, "YOU". You don't find love. It finds you. You attract to you everything in your life by who you are. Stop worrying about it. Stop thinking about it. Whatever you like to do for fun, Get the hell out there and do it. You'll see that it will changes your life. Just enjoy being alive. And before you know it, everything will happen for you. If you exercise everyday, that will help too. More than you know.
2006-10-14 19:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by flip4449 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have no way of knowing what your future might
hold. And I'm sure that someone has loved you sometime in your
life. It sounds like you might be a little depressed, it will cause you
to not want to do anything. You just have to turn your attitude around, be positive. A good attitude will attract good people. Don't
give up hope!! Get out there and make it happen, you can do it!!!
I really hope you will try. Good luck to you.
2006-10-14 19:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by REALISTIC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sweet Guy,
Of course your family loves you and I'll bet your close friends love you as well. I think you are referring to matters of the heart. But even so, you can't know for certain that "not even one person will ever love you". You are still alive. Life is not over. There are a lot of what people refer to as "late bloomers". You just haven't met that certain someone. The time just isn't right. For those people who find their true love, most of the time, they weren't even looking. That "someone" came into their lives quite by accident. Please do not despair, your day will come. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off and go out into the world. It's all waiting for you.
2006-10-14 19:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey! Get off your butt and just live! You are feeling sorry for yourself (which we all do at times). Your life is not over yet. You may meet someone down the road who will astound you in some way (either with love, affection, wonderful friendship, or simply inspiration for your life). You may also be inspiration for someone else that you are not aware of. No one said we have to have "the one" to be happy and productive in this world. Do you know what happens in the fairy tales after "...and they lived happily ever after"? Happiness, fun, sadness, boredom, amusement, and trials & tribulations of daily life. Hang in there, but just get off of the couch. Life is waiting to meet you out there!
2006-10-14 19:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by Maewest 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh! What a sad sack you are. Come on! If you really think that for a fact that not even one person will ever love you, then you have to make a life for yourself. Find a passion in your life that will make you happy to wake up to.
2006-10-14 19:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by doggoneit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to make yourself happy. Life doesn't just happen. You have to MAKE things happen! Go out, have fun, meet people!!!! Don't sit home and be lazy. You aren't married and it doesn't sound like you have kids. You have nothing holding you down. You have freedom. So, go enjoy it!!!! Why do you think you have to be happy and acceptable to being alone? Who says you have to be alone? Being alone is up to you.
2006-10-14 19:48:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LOVE YOU!!! LOL... hope that helps. First thing would be to love yourself. Obviously you don't if you feel that no one will ever love you. Think about the good qualities you have. Think about the things that makes you happy. And base your life around those things. Once you get that down, then you'll be able to invite more happiness into your life.
2006-10-14 19:46:20 · answer #11 · answered by *karasi* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋