i want to know why do i attract older men and jail birds? i am 27 years old with four children ages 13,10,8 and 3 weeks. it seems i can't find nobody right, i'm not a rough neck all really i do is sit in the house and work .i have two jobs my own house not(section 8) and myown car why i can't find nobody who would appreciate me? sometimes i just cry and cry hoping it would get better but now since i had my baby i'm really depress and lonely and i know you maybe sayin where the baby's daddy at but i don't have time to play games with him he like h*** but check this out he say he want to marry me but how and every day i'm a stupid b**** or he throwing he old girlfriend in my face and he left me while i was pregnant and did'nt even come to the hospital when i had the baby.and by the way( this is my newborn daddy) and before you all get to saying stuff about my four kids their all takin care of by me so need to try and put me down.
2006-10-14 12:34:27 · 12 answers · asked by toni m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can sympathize with your situation. Wanting someone by your side who can really support you and at the same time raise four children is no easy task. Your main question is why do you attract not so good candidates. You are probably pretty young and good looking, so older men, may want to prove to themselves they stilll can "get the woman they want, any woman"; Jailbirds just want to fight loneliness.
Good men are stil around, but taking care of four children will scare some of them away. Even if you can and have take care of them, to start a relationship with you means start a relationship with them, become a father figure or a figure of authority, most men are not willing to that kind of commitment. I really wish I could help you more, but most probably I am several thousands miles away. Anyhow you can contact me anytime.
2006-10-14 12:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can see you as vulnerable and needy partly because you have the children. Best way is not to look for any man-stay independant. If you do not appear interested or needy then maybe a different sort of man may come along who appreciates a woman who is independant. Say no to all of them for a while. They will all cause you too much trouble. Set your sights a lot higher. Do not take secondbest. The childs daddy obviously is not worthy of you but dont look for another and land yourself with child number 5. Just keep working, enjoy your kids and forget about the men! Make some good female friends who you can share deeeper friendships with.
2006-10-14 12:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by angeldust 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of young guys don't really want to settle down with a lady with kids. You could try going to places where your kind of guys are. Not a club or a bar, mostly the losers you're talking about go to those kinds of places. Go somewhere where nice guys are. Dress nicely, be sweet, maybe you could attract a great guy! Good luck!
2006-10-14 12:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by ♀♥♂☮Trippy Hippie☮♂♥♀ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all girls have that problem, but it's different types. I attract younger dudes that could do nothing for me, or street types that have nothing going for them. With that much baggage, it can be hard to find a guy that would be okay with it...but there are some out there that will! You are still pretty young, I wouldn't worry about. Everything happens for a reason, and your time will come.
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2016-10-19 10:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had the answer for you. I'm 30 with no kids, a good job, my own place, my own car, successful and can't find the right person, either. I wish you luck and much success in your future love life. Stand strong and continue taking such good care of your kids! :)
2006-10-14 12:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by I'm just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're looking in the wrong places. They're a lot of great guys out there. You just have to be patient and look in the right places - (i.e. - church, bookstores, volunteer centers, schools, and/or upscale places such as museums, etc.). Don't rush anything.
2006-10-14 12:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you not only attract oder men and jail birds, but you also might be attracting other men too, but they think your taken or you might be to good for them so they don't act. Keep your chin high girl, something good will come around.
2006-10-14 12:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by Windy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm an older man who been to jail & prison but I wouldn't treat ya like that!
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2006-10-14 12:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to one of thos dating places...and if u don't want to...cause i probably wouldn't either lol...then when a guy asks u out...take it seriously seriously slow....if he still respects u 2 weeks later and u haven't done anything yet....then take it a step further....and when i say step...i mean baby steps lol...be smart about this one...sorry if i offened u by that last part lol
2006-10-14 12:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by kkk09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋