2006-10-14 12:17:15 · 18 answers · asked by inteleyes 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hi spookshowbaby... the reason for me is, yahoo only allow so many letters in a question, so I have to use short hand:)
2006-10-14 13:07:44 · update #1
Honestly it's just not that easy sometimes. Forgiveness takes time, explain that you accept the apology and truly try to forgive them. Other times it's easy, in any case I try to forgive regardless of whether they acknowledge their faults or not. Clears up my spirit, why in the world would you want to carry hate or pain in your heart??? It doesn't do you any good, especially when the person has made a good faith effort to apologize. By all means forgive but don't forget what happened. Not to hold onto anything against that person, but more so that you can try not to end up in that situation again.
2006-10-14 12:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by dgezy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband's friend stole a large sum of money from us and caused us serious hardship. It took a long, long time and a lot of prayer before I could get to the point that I could say, "I'm willing to be willing to forgive him."
Gradually, it got easier, and the bitterness started to fade away. Finally, I could mentally say, "I forgive you" and actually mean it.
The real test was when the man came back to us and begged for forgiveness. Saying the words "I forgive you" to him turned out to be easier than I thought they would be.
I think forgiveness is an ongoing process, and it really helps to surrender your hurt and bitterness to your Higher Power.
2006-10-14 19:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfeblayde 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have forgiving people, with and without them asking. Forgiveness is more for yourself then for the other person. It sets you free of their wrong doing and keeps that wrong from controlling you. In some cases forgive, but don't let the person back in to hurt you again.
2006-10-14 19:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by magnolia_76 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't need to forgive them, it won't help them any...the fact that they ask for forgiveness indicates they are already being punished by their guilt...They need to beg forgiveness for needing me to forgive them...I believe people live their each individual deserved punishments for the choices they make. Plus I believe that people materially participate in their lives to the point where there are no "innocents"...If I've been mistreated, I've done something to put myself there to be mistreated and I should be accountable for my part in whatever has taken place.
2006-10-14 19:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by ... 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure.
I can even forgive people who have not come to me to ask for forgiveness. There is a person who works at my companies main office I have a problem with but if they asked for forgiveness I will forget it.
May GOD richly bless you.
2006-10-14 19:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by Bye Bye 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is for the forgiver, not the forgivee. For me, it is about letting go of a burden.
2006-10-14 19:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Skeff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God judges. God forgives.
When someone says he/she is sorry, what is your response? Being able to accept it depends where you are emotionally. It has nothing to do with being gracious. The best you can do is to accept, but accepting has nothing to do with forgiveness.
God judges. God forgives. And we go on with our lives.
2006-10-14 19:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by J. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forgave the first time and the second time I never spoke to that person again. Even when I was approached with another apology I just walked away and never looked back.
2006-10-14 19:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, I forgave before they asked for forgiveness, and i would have forgiven them when they asked yes. God bless
2006-10-14 19:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes and Yes. We have started over and our relationship is better than ever. It was a member of my family. If you would like me to elaborate, email me
2006-10-14 19:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Vicki 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋