2006-10-14 12:15:39 · 15 answers · asked by SHARLENE S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This is very common at 3. She still wants to be that baby, yet becoming the big girl. I would have her change herself, with observation, once she has an accident. Try pretty girl underwear, have her pick them out at the store, and encourage her how wonderful she is doing. This is a tough age, they still want mommy to be there, yet, she is growing up. Just keep encouraging her. Good luck!
2006-10-14 12:20:35 · answer #1 · answered by flower 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mymail553...answer is terrible and Amelia needs to chill out. You are talking about a toddler and they really don't understand why going potty in their pants is a 'bad' thing. They've been doing it most of their lives and you didn't use to mind. Set up a chart and give her stars for each time she uses the potty or give her a sticker, etc. If you spank her or get mad, she'll be getting your reaction as a reward for not going potty and pretty soon she will be 'parenting' the household. Reward her with praise and a hug when she does things. If she potties herself, clean her up and remind her to use the potty next time so she can get a star. Don't do anything more, even if you are upset. Kids and clothes do clean...
2006-10-14 20:26:50 · answer #2 · answered by lavenderbluememories 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she knows how to do it and is choosing not to, you need to make that uncomfortable for her without turning it into a battle. Tell her you will no longer nag her about going potty. She knows how and she needs to do it. Get rid of all diapers in the house. Then tell her if she chooses not to use the potty, when you know she can, she will go to her room for the rest of that day, even if it's 10am, even if she misses meals, even if she misses an activity. Then stick to it. She will test you a couple times, then it will be over and she will be THERE. Trust me, I've done it.
2006-10-14 21:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son had no trouble peeing in the toilet from age 2 on but at age 4 he would ask for a diaper for #2. He was wearing underpants to preschool but saved the "big guy" for a diaper. I was so upset that the day after his 4th b.d. I told him that the doctor said he wasn't allowed to have anymore diapers now that he was 4. He questioned it (like he does everything still at age 15) and I pretended to call the doc. (Sneaky, I know). I pleaded with the dial tone to let him have just one diaper a day, but it didn't work. I very sadly told him that the doctor said no and THAT WAS IT!! I had wished later that I'd made that fake call about a year earlier. Try it; ya never know!
2006-10-14 19:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by mab5096 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really cant understand ... should she go when U want???
dont push her, some children forget about it, dont want to miss their play time, or may avoid it because they experience constipation. try to give her more vegetables and fruits for a few days and explain to her that she should go so as not to get sick. give her time, and make potty time pleasant (read a book, take her favourite toy with her etc.), if it is a time to fight she will never go. dont make it a big family issue this may have the opposite effects. every child is different, be creative :)
2006-10-14 19:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by kourtina1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a great ebook that I found online about knowing the signs of readiness, and how to train in 3 days or less. Its a really great book, and an easy method that anyone can do. It may be just what you need. I would be happy to forward it to you. You can email me at starsalso@yahoo.com to request it. Take care! :)
2006-10-14 22:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are talking about!! My soon to be 3 yr old knows how and when to go to the potty but she has to be in the mood for it! She'd rather pee and poop in her pull up! Makes me mad!
2006-10-14 19:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean when you say she goes when she wants to? Does she refuse to go to the bathroom if she is playing a game or watching a movie? If that is the case, then you need to monitor her, or have her do other activies. As a former caretaker, young children who are left in front of the TV to watch movies or play video games often spoil themselves because they don't want to be bothered getting up to go to the bathroom.
2006-10-14 19:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by sounsure90211 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the big girl panties, we did that with our daughter. I know some people with not agree but we also rewarded my daughter with 3 or 4 M&Ms or a few Smarty candys when she went to the bathroom. I know I know, everyone says you shouldnt use food as a reward, but it worked. and no my daughter is not overweight or scarred or any of those things...
2006-10-14 19:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by grapelady911 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this behavior is normal encourage with a reward with every successful trip to the potty
2006-10-14 21:12:45 · answer #10 · answered by chuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋