I am horibbly frustrated with a guy in my class who I've become friends with. We've discussed relationships and people, and he says that he likes girls who are a challenge, but he keeps aiming for this stupid, easy girl who he knows has a crush on him....
He says that he wants to ask her out because he knows she won't say no to him, and he hates being let down.
I know that he likes me, and I wouldn't mind if he asked me out, but he said that I'm intelligent and funny, something he said he likes in girls.
Is it just me, or there something wrong with him? Is he afraid of me?
I'm one year older than him, and he has said something about knowing that older girls prefer to go out with older guys, not the other way around. Age doesn't bother me in this case, since he is mature enough for me. Am I too much myself, or is it just the age thing?
I have no intention whatsoever of changing myself or trying to be different.
I really need answers on this, especially from guys. All are welcome.
2006-10-14 12:08:09 · 6 answers · asked by Nicole 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont buy the sister thing one iota. He is obviously afraid of rejection like most guys (except for the sociopaths with no conscience) and dropping lame hints in fantasy that YOU will take the lead and make it easy for him. Example - you say 'You shouldn't be hesitant to ask any girl out if you want to. You are a great catch and a girl would be crazy to reject you and besides rejection is nothing bad compared to not taking a risk.' You can say I would definitely go out with a guy like you' and this would invite immediate reaction from him. Take a risk and go for it and you will be amazed... and you KNOW he is no socio cuz if he wuz he'd HAVE a girl because he is a socio who says/does anything to get any girl he wants and doesnt need a 'sister'
2006-10-16 07:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by larry s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would say that the fact that you two even discussed relations and characteristics that you like is a pretty good sign.guys are more reserved on a personal level.maybe hes playing the third person to really find out more about you in an indirect way.maybe his telling you about his not being comfortable with disappointment is just an invitation for you to ask.hope i helped
2006-10-14 19:23:03 · answer #2 · answered by pigpen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably thinks of you as a sister. You've gotta dispel that notion. He already knows that you're funny and intelligent - which is a big plus. All you have to do now is to appeal to his eyes a little more; dressing up should do the trick. Remember, sexy with class - that should make his head spin.
2006-10-14 19:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wrepete is right....based on what you're saying, he sees himself as one thing, but in reality is another. He's revealing to you his ideal self, but he's living out the self that you say isn't that enjoyable for you. He's still confused, and on top of that he doesn't seem to be interested in dating someone older (or he's not confident or mature enough to just tell you that he sees you as a friend only). Best to direct your interests elsewhere.
2006-10-14 19:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he says one thing and believes another. If you call that mature, then you have a different interpetation of the word than I do. In short, yes, it does sound as if he's afraid of you. That is never good.
2006-10-14 19:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy has an inferiority complex, and inside he doesn't feel that he is worthy of the type of woman that he says he likes most.
No self confidence.
2006-10-14 19:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋