explian it
2006-10-14 12:01:38 · 37 answers · asked by pinkyswinkys 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wait till your older, youll be glad you did
2006-10-14 12:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by barhpr 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Not just NO, HELL NO!!!
14 years old for a guy or a girl is too young... You are not ready for the commitment or the pain.
Let me break it down like a fraction. (props to Bernie Mac)
1) At fourteen, you probably don't know the difference between a guy who seriously loves you and a player.
2) You are too innocent for some of these predators that only want you like you are a commodity or some piece of meat treating you like you're worthless.
3) Sex is not translatable to love... Guys can have sex with you without ever having ONE inkling of a feeling for you.
4) You want to be a mother at 14? It could happen.
5) You want an Sexually Transmitted Disease that may NEVER go away or worse could kill you?
6) Do you want to throw whatever future you may have for him to get his 15 seconds of pleasure?
7) Do you want to be the girl with the "go to" rep? Meaning guys say, "I want some..." "Go to her, she'll give it up easy, hell she's been doing it since she was 14 with any guy that comes along."
So my advice is wait until you are married, but then I'm a square according to most. However, if you want someone to love you and for sex to be meaningful in a relationship.... Squares usually don't have a lot of regrets...
Don't let ANYONE treat you like a piece of meat, show a little self respect... Save yourself for a guy who really cares for you... You're someone more precious than that...
The only thing you should be doing right now is kissing on the cheek... So here's a (x) kiss for your cheek... Run along and wait for the "right" guy and not the "right now" guy.
2006-10-14 12:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up your virginity untile you are positive. Meaning older! I am 14 too and I can tell without meeting you that you are too precious to do that. You arn't worth becoming some guy's trashy past, locked away in the corner of his mind. You will always regret it if you have sex at 14, because no matter who it is with, I am pretty sure that they will leave you. And sex creates a chemical bond in your brain that will give you an emotional attachment to that guy, and pretty soon, you'll be heartbroken. He could be the most caring guy in the world, but fate is, it's going to end, and we're not ready for that yet. Besides, your man probably dosen't know how to avoid hopping you up. Don't, please. For yourself. Good luck and make the right decision.
2006-10-14 12:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It does depend, but mostly I would say, no.
I think sex should always be communication between two people that have taken the time to become close enough to really want to bond together physically. It takes time and respect.
It isn't based on physical urges that you believe need satisfaction. When our society was beginning it was necessary to pro-create to develop society. Now, too many people should stop us, and it doesn't. Please be responsible to yourself and society and take the precautions needed to avoid unwanted children.
I honestly can't imagine a 14 year old having the maturity needed to accompany a sexual relationship. As I said, it depends on the person but more than likely "NO", not recomended for a 14 year old. It is your choice.
2006-10-14 12:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by moire1111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 14 are you ready to start a family and take care of a child? Can you support yourself? When at 14 are you able to take care of all of your basic needs?
14 is too young to venture into a sexual relationship because they are not capable of the responsibilities involved with the possible repercussions of that behavior.
2006-10-14 12:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Im 14 and I believe that it is best to relax in your teenage years adn when youre much older you can do what you want. Nowadays especially its better to wait because with all of the emotions that come with sex and the STDs running around. Why take the risk? Its not worth it. Sex is the kind of thing that can ruin your life. BE CAREFUL!!
2006-10-14 12:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by ~Stephie~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's about being mature. It's about the difference between "having sex" and "making love". You have to experience love in order to know the difference. Anyone can have sex - even animals! But "making love" is something special. It's something that you have to experience for yourself in order to understand, There is nothing I can say to you that will explain it to you. You have to experience it for yourself.
You may try to look at it this way - sex is like playing. A very pleasurable kind of playing. You do not have to be mature in order to have sex. You just need basic education and "the desire". You don't even need to be over 18 in order to have sex! You need to trust yourself - you can decide for yourself if you're ready or not for sex - and - truth be told - sex is not something so dangerous and evil. With the right education and a condom - it's OK!
I would say that sex is part of the "growing up" process. But it's not sufficient. It's just one of the ingredients.
The need for sex - is a need of the body (and not necessarily to be taken lightly).
The need for love - is the deepest expression of human soul - trying to define the purpose of life. Love becomes a guiding beacon - the supreme moral compass. You can't go wrong with love. You see, the Beatles were right, "all you need is love".
I wish you LOVE!
2006-10-14 12:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm an ole lady, and it's been awhile since I was 14, but I do remember raging hormones. Just keep this in mind. When you do, finally meet the man of your dreams. The one you want to spend the rest of your life with. What do you want to tell him about your sexual experiences? Think about him, and what you will say to him, when that day comes. Let that be your guide to deciding what you do now. Best Wishes to you, and may all your dreams come true.
2006-10-14 12:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by gypsyparadise123 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
physically yes, but emotionally and mentally--no, it isn't. There is alot more than just DOING the act that comes into the picture here. I'm not putting you down, but there are also grown adults who can't always handle the consequences--and we are supposed to have more sense than teens your age.See, then if he doesn't call you--oh why? if he goes with someone else-you feel used, if you get pregnant-you regret the whole thing. Don't rush into growing up, it will happen without your help...
2006-10-14 12:08:44 · answer #9 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
definatly not!!!!!! way too young, not mentally mature enough yet, and its just emberrasing. At 14, your still basecly a child, so enjoy all of the activities that are offered. Sex is one of the last things that you should be expecting in a relationship. Have you no respect towards yourself? don't you want to be better and find that special someone first?
2006-10-14 12:06:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't even spell "explain" properly, how the hell are you going to get sex right?! Spend more time on your schoolwork and less time thinking about sex - you'll have time for that later on, but you could become a dunce starting from now. By the way, in case you already are a dunce: the answer is NO!
2006-10-14 12:05:09 · answer #11 · answered by John P 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋