Men --- Would you think she is not interested in you?

Question

You ask a woman out but she says she just got out of a relationship and and says she needs time to herself so she doesn't repeat the same mistakes.

She tells you she is attracted to you and asks if you are seeing someone special. You say no. She tells you she would like to call you every once in a while. You say okay.

She calls 3 times within a month. Each time you talk an hour but you don't call her unless to call back. She asked if you are just being polite and you say we have developed a relationship on a different level, we have stepped it up. You say you would tell her if you didn’t want her to call.

Again, you say to her that you aren't dating anyone special. You tell her that you broke up with someone 7 months ago and she says "oh, so you are in the same situation I am in." You say no you do date once in a while. She says she would expect you would go on dates.

When she says she would expect you to go on dates, would you think she is putting you off?

Answer 1

your first impression is your only impression.

reverse the role,imagine u saw an attractive guy, and as soon as he starts talking he start to moan/whine about his previous relationship...i bet you wouldnt even answer his txt msg or calls though u might give him your number as a sympathy.

now, you have presented your situation as a 'damage goods'. it's a little tricky for him to get interested in you,unless if he's badly desperate for someone.

when you told him to go on dates, you are now talking like sister.
you better tell him, let's go for a drink sometime, plain talking will take u far than coded language which girls like to use assuming guys are master decoders. :)

Answer 2

No, it's not like the lady in question is ready for anything. However the 3 calls within a month, seems a little relationship co-dependant without all of the bothersome intimacy.

She was straight forward...she's attracted, but not in a place where she was ready to date anyone. When it comes to dating, I'd focus on the people who actually want to date me versus someone that is currently trying to heal themselves from their last relationship.

The issue isn't attraction, interest or chemistry, it's timing. My course of action would be to still be friends with this person, and perhaps when timing is right, pursue something then or I'd just NEXT them, if I felt they were wasting my time.

Answer 3

At this point, it wouldn't matter. There hasn't been a date yet and all this drama has already been attached to the relationship. Doesn't sound like there will be any fun times associated with this relationship.

Answer 4

It's a test buy her perfume roses and a romantic cd and go for it.

Answer 5

yes I'd be put off by that.

Answer 6

no