I just had a HUGE arguement with my parents. My parents are overly strict, they have had a problem with whomever i bring to the house. I am 25 years old. I have been dating my bf for 9 months but we are taking a break because he has personal issues to settle. My parents have never like anyone i bring home ever. My boyfriend used to not come here because he felt intimated on him and of course me talking to my parents never worked. Now since our break which just started last week, we have remained friends and speak on the phone , but tonight he asked to come over to chill and i said sure thinking nothing is wrong. When i got off, my parents were screaming at me saying this is the last time he is allowed over our house and that i need to drop him and "there is no such thing as being friends ****". Thats ****** up! i have been dating him sooo long and i can't just drop him and i enjoy being with him an have feelings for him-omg i can't tell him he's not allowed here-what to do!!??
2006-10-14 11:57:15 · 27 answers · asked by hersheybar99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can't move out yet because i just finished school and started a job, i don't have enough to move out so don't jump to that response
2006-10-14 12:09:41 · update #1
I think its about time for you to get out of your parents house.
Ok... you say don't jump to that response... but truthfully that is the only option. You're living in their house. They have the right to decide who comes in it. Maybe they're seeing something you're not seeing. You should consider why they don't like him. Some times parents really do know best.
In the meantime, save your money, and move out. Then you can have whomever you want in your house.
2006-10-14 11:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying.. However if its your parents house, unfortunately you are going to have to respect their wishes. Keep in mind that we as parents never think there is anyone good enough for our child, seems as though especially with girls. Parents only want the best for their children. Not sure on this, but keep in mind that maybe they are seeing something you are not. However as parents, we need to Learn that our children can not learn by our mistakes, only by their own. And yes we also want to be there to prevent it, but honestly it is part of life.. We live, We learn. In the same respect you mentioned that you are 25 yrs old. So you're not a child, you are an adult & as an adult you do have choices & can make your own choices. However being that you live in the same home as your parents, I would pull them aside at some point & time when everything is calm & when they are not even discussing your boyfriend/friend. .. and ask them what is the problem, why do they not care for him, is it something he did , u did, etc.. Leave it open, Let them explain. Take it in stride & absorb what they are saying. The answer they have could be anything so just prepare yourself & take a deep breath & let them speel for a while.. Then you can try to put everything into perspective with your parents. I hope all works out for you!
2006-10-14 12:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kammaka2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you are 25 years old. Your parents have no say in the matter. You need to tell them you are an adult and they have no business butting into your life and affairs.
2) move out. Don't live with your parents when you are 25. They don't respect your decisions because they are seeing you as a child.
Time to move out and get your own place. See who ever you want. If they don't like it they can soak their heads.
There is nothing they can do about it. stop being a child and put your foot down.
2006-10-14 12:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out!...You should be living in your own place at your age. Your parents sound as though they're very controlling..and this isn't healthy. No matter who you bring home, they always find something wrong with them. They want you to think the way they do..they don't want you having friends. For them to say 'there is no such thing as being friends"., that's warped. Do they mean it's not possible for a guy and girl to be friends? If so, then that's not healthy either. Of course guys & girls can be friends. They can make the BEST of friends.
Do yourself the biggest favor ever...get the Hell outta there!!
2006-10-14 12:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move. You need to get out of your parents house. You are 25 and can be your own woman. Your parents can shout all they want, but forget them, their generation is getting wrinkly and old and it kinda smells like a nursing home. They don't understand you like your boyfriend does and they never will if you just submit to what they tell you to do. Stand up for yourself, rebel and leave and then that may show them that they can't mess with the free will of an adult. This is America! Love it or leave it. Be free and get out of there. Start enjoying life. Good luck.
2006-10-14 12:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to rain on your parade, but your parents may be right. Always consider that posibility. I and am sure a multitude of other people have never "rekindled" a relationship after such a breakup. Chill out, back away from the situation and answer this question if it where one of your girlfriends, that might help.
2006-10-14 12:01:06 · answer #6 · answered by salter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Wow! Thats hard to believe! Your parents are still putting up with your crap in their house after 25 years? They must have amazing patients!
Seriously, push your genorously sized *** away from your computer and go back to work and beg for more hours and\or spend every waking moment looking for a better job and move out.
Until then stop making your parents life any worse than it is by staying in your room as much as possible. Only come out to do the dishes. Don't forget trash night.
2006-10-14 11:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Altered Ego 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult.
Most people will probably reply saying that you are a woman and can date whoever you like.
However, it's your parents house and they can invite in or bar anybody they decide.
All you can do is continue to date whoever you decide but don't take them home or even tell your parents.
Tell them a white lie and say you are going out with a girl friend.
2006-10-14 12:01:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your parents house not yours. They have the right to set the rules for their own home just as you will in yours one day. Your choice is to move out and it seems to be overdue. Why can you not go to his house? Does he live with his parents also? Time to take charge of your life.
2006-10-14 12:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to solve this problem is to find a place of your own. Move out and then you can do what you want to do in the mean time you live in their house and you have to respect their rules.
2006-10-14 12:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋