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I went out with this guy from school last summer for almost three months. One day, the day I got back from vacation, I went online to talk to my bf and we started off talking about our school schedules, then he just went out and said he didnt want to go out anymore. I cried that night for a while, but I'm okay about it now. I'm going out with another guy who I like a million times more than my ex, and i'm happier with him. But everytime I see my ex in the hall or something happens that reminds me of him, I can't help thinking about him and wishing that he would want me back. It felt like love wen we were going out, but I'm not stupid. I'm 17 and I no that I wasn't in love with him, but I still feel like I had a HUGE lose wen we broke up. How should I deal with this feeling?

2006-10-14 11:51:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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You are doing the right thing by moving on. Let me tell you that I still (after being married for 15 years) think of my former beaus. Rejection always hurts, especially from someone you really cared about. My advice to move on... Journal about your feelings. Your feelings are fine you just need to pour them out. Then be thankful that you are the kind of girl who has the ability to care for others deeply and to know when to move on. Realize that the break up was probably his problem. Wish your ex well in future relationships. And Celebrate your new relationship and all that the future has to offer.

2006-10-14 11:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by NanD 2 · 2 0

Never easy and always takes T I M E. If it is ment to be then it will be. You are young and rapidly changing. Both of you are.
Sometimes the relationship as it is, was needed to end in order for it to begin again differently. I find that you don't know what you want until you see what you don't want. I hope this will be the case for you both. Stay friends and develop a friendship and when, or if the time comes again for you to be together it will be a better contact with a soild foundation to make it last.

2006-10-14 12:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by moire1111 3 · 0 0

First off I wouldn't dismiss these feelings. Just because you are only 17 does not mean you weren't in love. Most people experience their first love in high school. You will NEVER forget about him if he was your first love. He will always have a special place in your heart. I am 33 and extremely happy with my marriage. I wouldn't change anything but........I have not forgotten my first love. I even wonder at times how he is and what he is doing. Although I would NEVER want him back I will never forget him. You will get past the part of wanting him back when you truly fall in love again. Hang in there. It is a rough age but things will get better. Hugs!

2006-10-14 11:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by copswife93 4 · 2 0

sounds like it was love, there's no shame in that. It's not hard to fall in love with someone. It can happen pretty quickly and just because it doesn't work out, that doesn't mean it wasn't love.

I'm a big believer that we choose our feelings. So everytime you start thinking about him, you need to remind yourself that he is not the ONE for you, you need to remember how he hurt you, and you need to choose to not be sad about it. That may sound dumb, but seriously, you need to just look in the mirror and say aloud "I don't want him, I'm too good for him" and you choose to think about something else.

2006-10-14 12:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0 0

just because youre seventeen dosnt mean you cant fall in love, i was in love at 17, and he was my first love, he is someone that hurt me and i'll never forget. the memory of him will fade in time.

2006-10-14 11:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by blondie 4 · 0 1

Sometimes you just have to shrug your shoulders and remind yourself that some things just arent meant to be.

2006-10-14 12:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

in time you will heal but if he was for u or wanted you.he would have never left at all just go on with your life he went on with his

2006-10-14 11:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by gottobetheone2003 2 · 0 1

it made a big impression on you because you were young and inexperienced.
if you had a steady boyfriend you wouldn't need a holiday fling.

2006-10-14 11:59:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Then don't say it feels like love

2006-10-14 11:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by Steph(China) 2 · 0 2

for starters stop thinking of that jerk after wat he did to u.second that wasnt love it was a crush one that u had on an asshole(sorry for the cuss)that was just using u so just try ur best to forget him

2006-10-14 12:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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