I have a 1 yr. old...?

Question

Is it ok that she is the only child? Will she be smart when she's older cause i've heard kids that have sidlings turn out to be smart like their phsical && motor skills.

Answer 1

I've had the best of both worlds--I was an only child until I was 6, and then became an older sister.

On a personal level, I always felt like I was "missing" something by not having a sibling, and I distinctly remember repeatedly telling my parents that I wanted one. In fact, I'm pretty sure I put it on my list to Santa one year...

But frankly, I don't think being "smart" has anything to do with having a sibling. I'm just doing this from personal experience, but I was plenty smart those first 6 years of my life without a sibling, and I don't feel like having a brother had any further effect on that afterwards. So I wouldn't use that as the issue of concern...I think its more a matter of what you want, and what your daughter wants. Maybe when she's a little older she'll say she wants one or something, and then you can always take that into account.

P.S. I love the age difference between my brother and I, we get along so well.

Answer 2

I think the word you are looking for is siBlings, rather than sidlings? I have an only child, she will be 21 in January, right now she is in college and has, over the past two years maintained a 4.0 grade point average...she took dance and Kung Fu as a child so her physical and motor skills are just fine...earned a black belt in Eagle Claw Kung Fu.
As for your daughter I don't know how she will turn out. She doesn't have the parents my daughter does. She is a totally different person than my daughter is. How one child develops whether as an only child or among a family of siblings depends on that particular child because no two children are alike, they all develop at different rates some excell at one thing others excell at something else and then others excell at another thing. You can't base your child's future on how another child has grown and developed

Answer 3

I don't think that it would make a difference in how smart your child will or will not be if there is a sibling or not. It all depends on the child. Whether they are interested in learning or doing something else. I was an only child and I hated it! I always wanted someone else around. I know that I am not going to do that to my little girl. We have been trying for over a year to have another and are hoping that it will happen soon. She is 3 and is very smart. She loves to learn. I sit with her and we say our alphabet and numbers together. She already knows even and odds til 15. I'd say that's pretty smart for her to be the only chold so far.

Answer 4

It's really up for you to decide if you want more kids to your daughter will have siblings but I had a lot of friends when I was growing up that were only children and they are just as smart as friends of mine who weren't only children. I don't think being an only child has any relevance to how smart a child can be.

Answer 5

the number of kids you have doens't make a difference in how smart a child is, I have two(boy+girl) it just makes them compete more.my girl(18)always tried harder in school,boy(20) didn't care much about grades everything was always football+hunting so it depends on what they enjoy.I also have a neice(16) she is an only child very smart but her mother sat and made her do reading and study alot,be careful because she looks down at times on some kids that just don't understand things the way she does. you don't want other kids to look at your daughter as being a snob..you can teach her to be smart but also teach her to help others that might want and need help from the smarter kids thats what my daughter does.

Answer 6

Thats up to you if she is the only child.. To be honest I have never meet a single child that wish they had a sibling so you might keep that in mind. She will be smart as long as you show her and teach her,. And your the only one that can tell if she is smart or not , not some teacher not some friends.

Answer 7

Yes, of course, it is ok that she be an only child. As far as her intelligence goes, that has more to do with genetics than siblings. In my opinion, you should have the number of children that you want and can afford to give quality time to. It's awfully nice to have a brother or sister though, so don't disregard it entirely, but don't make your decision based on thinking that this will make her smarter. It MAY make her better adjusted to the real world though.

Answer 8

It's a personal decision, but I can't imagine having an only child on purpose. I hope you will have or adopt siblings for her. My daughters are so great together, and the only children I know are visible a mile away for their red-flag bad attitudes and "the world revolves around me" lifestyles. You'll have to battle that carefully and consistently. Siblings hone one another, rubbing up against each other constantly and wearing away the rough edges.

Answer 9

Well I was an only child and to tell you thr truth I hated it. I only had people to play with if they were available. I hated being the only kid on holidays too. It's fun getting toys for Christmas but no fun having nobody to play with the new toys with. I always knew I would never have an only child because of how much I hated it. My IQ is 137 so I wouldn't say I'm stupid.

Answer 10

If you are a dedicated parent, there will be nothing that she can't do!

I know a 2 year old only child that is very smart! His mommy realizes that he loves to learn and is teaching him!