School reunions?

Question

I am a 50 year old disabled man, born in Scotland and moved to England when I was 21. I am a big guy, a big softy and a big sentimental guy with a heart for others in need. I keep on seeing and hearing of lots of class reunions all over the UK, I see a lot in my local papers and the locals in Scotland when I go up to visit my mum. If ever I see or hear of a class reunion from my school year etc where an appeal goes out for past pupils to come back and visit their old school chums, even now I am an adult of 50 years, I still feel saddened to the way I was treated from the other kids right from when I first started school, I was bullied non stop up until I left school. I have no happy memories at all and never had a single friend. I was overweight and when during pe I was always left out when teams were picked, in secondary school I was always shoved into a room at the back by the teatcher and had to dubb the balls. At playtimes I always walked alone and got bullied

It really upsets me to see people as adults meeting all their old school mates and being happy, I have nothing to look back on in my past life as it has all been full of sadness as my only friend I made up in scotland after I left school died at the age of 25. Then I made a friend in england and he died in his early 40's. Then my grandfather died and when my Nan died in 1989 it hit me so bad that my health took very bad turns for the worse. I had a brain haemorrhage, 16 mini strokes, loads more and now kidney failure. What have I done to deserve all this and lots more.The list goes on and on. Am I supposed to be alive on this planet? I want to have my dialysis at home but I can only get up to £25k on a disability grant but my extention etc to my home is around £50k + my dad won a good sum on the lottery but didn't offer me a penny. I know that others have suffered as well.

After my friend david from essex died in 1996 I have never had a single friend, maybee it isbecause of my disabilities and that I don't smoke or drink or go to pubs or clubs, I stay in at home with my loyal wifw who saved my life when I suffered my first stroke after my gp told the ambulance crew to go as I was ok and I only had a chest infection, where infact I was bleeding inside the right side of my brain.
If I can raise the £25k plus then she will be able to dialise me at home giving me back some of my somewhat could be shortened life with her and my 2 sons.

Answer 1

Lots of us had a childhood like this, you just have to learn to forgive and let go.

As for your current situation. Why doesn't your wife start a charity for you - the charity would then allow you to use the dialysis machine. It is not too difficult to do. If she were to undertake a public stunt for the new charity and get the newspapers and other media involved, other people will volunteer their services too. You would soon learn that there really are nice people in the world who would like to show that they care about you.


These sites are for the Uk and Scotland. Good luck.

Answer 2

When you go to school the people around you are not chosen friends, you happen to make friends or not depending upon who you bunched up with. i have one friend i still talk too from there, most part i loved school but toward the end i was treat horrificly. I never want to see those people again, i hae done very well for myself and have a nice home and boyfriend but they are just not worth my time so i cant be bothered!

you never got over things you learn to accept them learn from them and move on! hope you are feeling better about things now!

Answer 3

It's really too bad, what happened to you in school. I know other people that went through hell in school with different forms of bullying. I was bullied too, in grade school. It gave me a tougher shell, and a 'don't f*** with me' attitude, for a long time. There's a real power in letting go. It takes a lot of energy to hold a grudge against people that are probably off, living their lives having forgotten all about their misdeeds. Somebody earlier on said something about moving forward. That's good advice. Focus on maintaining your health, and appreciate those in your life that love & care about you.

Answer 4

It's sad that you had such rotten school days, mine were rotten too but for other reason.
Personally, the thought of going to school reunions horrifies me, no way do I want to see these people again.
Concentrate on the present and your future, stick with the friends you have now and the new ones you will make. If people were true friends at school, there would be no need to re-unite them would there.

Answer 5

But that's all in the past now. Sometimes we have to let go!!

Those class reunions. Only the really boring people ever go to them anyway.