Religious: How can you teach your sons to respect the girls no matter how the girls dress?

Answer 1

its actually simple....you just try your best to raise a good person by your lead and example...no guarantees but thats the best you can do

Answer 2

It's a very difficult thing you ask. I'm not sure a guy can respect a girl who dresses the way many do today. American women have been taught that you can flaunt your body, and a man is supposed to remain respectful. But that isn't how men are built. They respond to the visual. A girl who tries to be attract men through purely physical sexual appeal gets that kind of response from men.

What you can teach your boys, perhaps, is that often the girls do not really understand the power of what they are doing.
They don't truly understand what kind of tension they are putting the boys under. They want to be admired by the boys and that's what they think their outfits will gain them. Admiration.

Understanding that, you could help your boys to understand that what the girls are doing is harmful both to themselves and to the boys around them. And that they need to show the girls that this is not what they want.

The way to do this is to treat the girls well, and also, to let them know when appropriate that they would prefer the girls to dress with more modesty.

I am afraid the Women's Lib movement has a lot to answer for.
And this--that a woman can flaunt and use her sexuality without any consequences, is part of it.

If you are modest, and your boys see in you the model of the kind of woman they want to marry, then I think that is the best thing you can give them. What we adults model is what affects them most.

Does Dad watch the Dallas Cowboys and lust after the Dallas Cowgirls? Mixed signals. Most modern movies send not mixed signals, but destructive ones about what constitutes female beauty and desirability.

So you have a lot to fight through. At adolescence the hormones rage and start to pull, so the best defense is the boy's own character, and what you have taught them through word and action.

Answer 3

Respect and manners are hereditary.

If you see a fat bloke walking down the street with a cigarette drooping from his mouth, shirt hanging out, maybe hasn't shaved for a couple of days, smells of body odour, making his way to the local burger bar for his Sunday dinner together with his woman who doesn't look a lot better - you know that those kids following them, the ones dropping litter everywhere, chewing gum, face piercings, tattoos etc are theirs.

We've all seen that family, haven't we?

However, I know a couple who have 9 children.
That couple are well educated, always clean, polite, tidy etc.
Their 9 children are a credit to them and well liked by the community.

You never hear any of those children shouting or swearing and you never hear the parents shouting at them.
They will quietly tell them to do something, and they do it - with a smile.

How do you get that first family to act more like the second?

Politicians around the world have been trying to work that one out for many years and have never really solved the problem.

Lets hope they eventually do - the streets will be a far safer place than they are in certain areas at the moment.

Answer 4

Tell them that ultimately what a woman wants is to feel love. No matter how short a skirt is or how skimpy the top might be.
Describe to them that if you treat a woman with love and respect she will be much more delightful to be around.

Talking to someone with lack of respect because of the way they dress can also get oneself into trouble. There are some great people that might come in damaged packages, but you never know if you treat them unkindly.
Peace...

Answer 5

You teach them to focus on their responsibility to God, for if that can be done, all else will fall into its rightful place. Even a girl dressing like a hooker may be a virgin with a wild sense of dress (Dolly Parton liked the way the town tramp dressed and couldn't wait to dress up as well). Our society is changing faster that the mores can keep up with it and a lot of nice girls are dressing way beyond their 'intentions'.
If our sons think the Devil is throwing temptation in their paths to trip them up, their determination to resist may strengthen.
It's popular, and easier, to act upon a physical attraction, but it's what's on the inside that will be needed for relationships to last.
Best wishes.

Answer 6

I do teach my sons to respect women and girls regardless of their dress but I find it is difficult for my son to pay attention when he is confronted with a half dressed female. We should all show respect for ourselves and each other.

Answer 7

You really need to children to respect everyone.
Sometimes it's not an easy thing to do.
If we all dressed the same and acted the same it would be a really boring world.

Answer 8

Your son can be responsible for only HIS actions. A girl is responsible for her own. I think the thing is to impress upon them that it is not up to them to determine who gets respect and who does not. Everyone should be respected but, to let the girls know their dress is not right or appreciated in a respectfull way.

Answer 9

better to teach your sons how to properly love the girls and respect the men in their lives. What women really need is to be loved. It is in their genes, problem is they receive of each in their own language, so you must teach them the languages of love. Gifts, time, service, touch, and I ferget the other one. Those in mini skirts are definitely not going to respond to respect, and yet one should act respectful, but when somebody screams abuse me how do you meet their need???

Answer 10

Girls who dress like that hardly respect themselves. Teach him to treat others with kindness no matter how they decide to treat themselves.

Answer 11

If he's a teen and older, he doesn't want to respect them, and the clothes won't matter because he'll be spending half his waking day - and all of the night - thinking about ripping those clothes off. If he's pre-teen it won't matter how they dress because he won't be making any judgements anyway in that respect as he won't understand about sex - which is what you're referring to. If he's pre-teen but does understand about sex see the first sentence.