i think that i might be going to hell?

Question

i have such hatred right now for society and people that i's not even funny...my previous question was concerning my friend who just died because of a drunk driver...because of that i just hate, honest to God, i hate the person who did it this and got away with it...i just have deep hatred and that clashes with my religoius beleifs, i'm roman catholic, i wish i could say that i feel sorry for the person and that my friend is in a better place but i dont i just hate the fact that hre had to die, i hate the person who killed him and i if i could kill him myself i would...i just hate...i think i'm going to hell, i dunno?

i hope he dies slowly..maybe cancer, maybe being paralyzed maybe rape...i dont care but he has to be in agony...i just dont care anymore

Answer 1

I'm very sorry you suffered the loss of a friend. That can hurt so much, cut so deep. Don't feel guilty for the hatred you feel now while the pain is still so intense. You have more than enough to deal with without the added burden of letting in senseless guilt. It's perfectly natural for you to rage and feel hatred; this is the way you're adjusting to the loss. Grief has many stages and anger is a very important one. Just don't worry about the guilt and don't try to force yourself to get over the anger too soon. In time you will. It's hard to believe now, but I know from experience that time makes things better. What you need to do is be good to yourself right now. Don't try to be a saint. Work through the pain and let the grief run its natural course. {Hug}

Answer 2

Sweetheart there is no such thing as Hell, in the "eternal burning and torture" sense. Hell is simply Hades, Sheol, Mankind's common grave. The burning of the lake of fire in Revelation is symbolic of complete and total destruction. Meaning that those who die during God's Judgment (known as the second death) will not be resurrected. They will not be tortured, or burned forever in eternal torment. Once you're dead, you're dead. The dead are conscious of nothing at all. These ones that die in the second death will sleep eternally, and be erased from God's memory. If a father wanted to teach his son or daughter a lesson and punish them for some wrong they committed, would it be loving for the father to take the child's hand and put it over a burning flame?? ABSOLUTELY NOT! How much more so would God who is LOVE not do such a thing. God who sent his only begotten son to die on behalf of ALL of mankind. It's interesting to note that the Hell-fire doctrine and Trinity doctrine was introduced by Emperor Constantine and was adopted in the 300 C.E and later on in the 4th Century C.E other churches adopted the Hellfire and Trinity doctrine along with other pagan ideas such as Immortality of the soul, and Idolatry. NOT a biblical teaching. So rest assured that you are not going to hell.

I understand however your feelings, I have lost loved ones myself, (my bestfriend) and that is a normal part of the grieving process. You have every right to feel as you do. However, try to hate the bad that the person did. Hate the action that caused your friend's death. You don't want to become hardened in your heart, and become calloused. Especially to the point of committing an act such as murder. It may help to know though, that your friend will be resurrected, and you will be able to see him again. Now you just have to do your part, to be strong, and determined to stay as the wonderful person you are, and not let hatred stay in your heart. In the end, the person who did this to your friend will have to render himself accountable to God. So let God take care of the person who did this. Only he can read the thoughts and inclinations of the heart, and judge accordingly.

In the meantime, do what you can to be strong. That don't mean that you can't have a good cry, and let it all out. You certainly can. But just try to keep yourself active, and positive. Ask yourself what your friend would want you to do? Surround yourself with friends and family that love you and are there to support you, you need that right now. And if you feel like you can't talk to any of your family or friends, then speak with someone like a councilor who can listen objectively and help you sort out the fallen pieces. Time heals all wounds, and I know you will get through this.

Sending a hug to you.

Answer 3

The problem isn't whether you are going to hell because you hate the person who killed your friend, it is within yourself. You must ask yourself if you are saved or not. Are you saved? That and that will determine your entrance into hell.

It is natural to have hatred, or hard feelings because of the death of a friend or loved one. It takes a while to get over it. You might try to figure out how the accident happened. Was the driver drunk, on drugs or not paying attention. Or did they try to stop the vehicle in time but couldn't. There are a lot of factors to consider.

Also if you are Catholic, don't they teach forgiveness? Talk to your priest. I am sure he will be able to help you thru this. But just because you hate someone or something doesn't necessarily constitute you going to hell. I hope this is helpful to you. I will keep you in my prayers. It sounds like you need them.

Answer 4

You shouldn't have to pay for the sin of another, hatred is a heavy burden that consumes the one that hates. Your loss is dreadful, this reaction isn't uncommon; I've lost People too; I know this feeling. If You can, when Your able; try and forgive; it sets You free of this hate. Oh, and the hell thing; it's nonsense; I would think even Your Parish priest would tell You it's metaphoric at this point in Catholicism; so rest easy on that account.

Answer 5

No you are not going to hell, the bible gives council to grieve. But not to dwell on things. Satan's system is very corrupt. What hap pend us very unjust. Your feelings are warranted. But as a christian, you should pray for that person and preach the bible to him. That is an command by Jesus. see act 10:42. Just think of the attitude the Apostle Paul kept when he was getting stoned?? It is human to have those type of reactions, but it is Gods spirit that if you humble yourself before him you can change your attitude. Of course this should give you confidence that someday you will see your friend in the resurrection day.

Answer 6

If you hate this person and I mean truly hate, then you are not a Christian and, Yes, you will go to hell unless you except Jesus as You Lord and Savior. But let me ask you, this person that you say you hate; Could you kill them, if they told you to pull the trigger, think real hard and search your heart before you answer. Do you go to bed each night and pray that this person will someday burn in a devil's hell? If the answer to either of these questions is no then you do not hate this person, you just hate what they have done and want to see them pay for it, which is what should happen. And trust me they will pay, if not in this life then, when they stand before Almighty God.

Answer 7

YOU ARE NOT GOING TO HELL - FOR THINKING.
If you hunt the person down, and hurt her/him then you crossed the line.
It just happened, (and I am very sorry for your loss), so of course your passion is higher than normal. After some time you won't think about the driver, only the good memories of your time with your friend.
Again, you are NOT going to hell.
Heh, DON'T HURT YOURSELF! Live a long life. Drink a toast to your friend when your 88, or older! (I named my son after a shipmate who died suddenly, and now my son has three guardian angels - well Joe's more the devil on his shoulder, but same idea.)

Answer 8

you aren't going to hell in the sense of burning torment it doesn't exist it is a figment of mans imagination.
your hatred may fade eventually and so will the pain of losing your friend in death.
I have a strong belief in the Resurrection hope as did Jesus Christ and I put faith in that hope when I lost my unborn child and my father, I am sure that I will see them again. I hope you can regain some faith and move on it may take time, in the mean time turn your hatred into something positive and petition for stricter rules as regards drink driving that way you will feel you have achieved something despite your loss

Answer 9

You can never tell, maybe it was hate like yours that tempted this person to drink and kill your best friend to start with. All you can do is try to forgive right now. Even if you say "I hate him but, I will start working on it" It will come easier for you. Hate is a normal reaction though. It is a very deep valley your in---pray to the Blessed Mother--she knows all about people you love being killed--She will give you graces. I will pray for you too.

Answer 10

Sounds like this wound is very fresh to you. Pray to God for strength to deal with this situation. Thinking these thoughts are part of your healing. You are angry, confused, and hurting terribly. I will also pray for you. You are not thinking straight. Try to remember all the good times with your friend and maybe creating a memorial in their name. I am sure that the drunk driver is going to have to live with this in a diffrent way. We can not read minds, only know that in your mind you are hurting. Maybe going to a grief support group might help you also. God Bless You