I want to be able to act like myself... especially with people that are really charismatic
2006-10-14 10:48:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You first have to know why you feel intimidated by others, do you think that you are less that others in one or more areas? Do not ever put yourself down. Get up everyday and say to yourself "I am worth knowing" "I am as charming, entertaining, intellingent, pretty, as anyone else." Build your confidence, look people in the eye and be yourself.
2006-10-14 10:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was abused and almost killed when I was a child for being confident and being myself.
as a matter of survival I learned to cover it up so "mother" could not see it...
as a result, I can spot (from a mile away) others that know how to be confident while the abuser is to arrogant to notice...
so,,,,
I move to the spotlight to be me...
the last place the abuser (mother) wanted - there, she'd been seen abusing me...
once done, I believe it is better to stay in the spotlight. cause the abuser is waiting around the corner for you to be alone,, and guess what will happen then!!!
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2006-10-14 10:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of yourself as being better than they are. It always works for me. According to psychology, when a person faces a stressful situation (i.e. - "trying" to be like yourself when you're with charismatic people), s/he will go through the "Fight or Flight" syndrome. At this point it is up to that person to decide to fight - think of yourself as being their equals or better - or flight - becoming anxious and wanting to avoid the situation. Obviously, in your case, you have be tough and fight. Hoorah!
2006-10-14 10:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first find out what intimidates you about them. Is it the way they look? Talk? Learn a specific topic well and then you can be well versed about it. When you feel comfortable about a specific situation you wont be so intimidated.
2006-10-14 10:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start reading some books on assertiveness and self-esteem. You might want to track down Dale Carnegie's book: How to win friends and influence people"..
2006-10-14 10:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be secure with yourself and be happy. You should not be easily intimidated by other people.
2006-10-14 10:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self assertive training classes are what I recommend, this would help you build have confidence in youself.
2006-10-14 11:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem...unfortunately I haven't found a solution either so all I do is suck up to other people.
2006-10-14 10:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act confidently, and be assertive when you speak to people.
2006-10-14 10:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore them, be your own person despite what others think.
2006-10-14 10:50:20 · answer #10 · answered by rebeandphantom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋