My little cousin is 8 years old he lives with us and most of the time a joy to babysit but when he was younger he as a premature and small or short and he used to put his hand in my back pocket or my butt when i walked around with him outside or grab on to my leg. He tends to do this now and its not cute in church last week he started massaging my butt and it was embarrassing. When i am around guys in particular he starts doing this too any advice?
He has also taken to jumping on me and he is way too heavy?
I have told him too stop!it has not worked!my parents say it a stage he will grow out off!
2006-10-14 10:05:02 · 17 answers · asked by Sabrina c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2006-10-14 10:07:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him to stop again, and tell him why. But this will probably not be enough, because his actions are probably not conscious. They are just a reflex when he is uncomfortable or afraid, and he is looking to you for comfort. So what you do is stop him every time he starts to do it. Remember to let him know that you will help him learn not to do it (so he doesn't think you are rejecting him), but do intersect him hand every time it goes someplace you don't want it. You can pull it away gently and give him a hug or a pat to show that you are still there, though you are not there for his hand. He will learn new reflexes. It will take a while, perhaps as long as a month, but it will work as long as you are consistent and you let him know that you still love him. The jumping you handle the same way, with immediate consequences and an explanation.
BTW, you should feel honored that he loves and needs you so much.
2006-10-14 10:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by world traveler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to his adulthood point, attempt to ask him why he does it. Take him aside and tell him you p.c. to comprehend why he lies and what he thinks he gets out of it. which you ought to to instant him, asking the way it feels to lie, the way it feels to get in difficulty. And in it sluggish, seek for a reason. Is he feeling skipped over or skipped over? Does he basically p.c. interest and any interest, even destructive, is greater constructive than none in any respect? attempt to be certain whilst he started mendacity, what replaced into happening with him, you, and the entire family individuals on the time. How long has it been happening? If he sounds like he can get away with it, he won't stop. yet removing the reason and giving consistent outcomes are maximum efficient in changing behaviors. And undergo in strategies outcomes may well be punishment (like time outs) and absence of privileges (no video games at present).
2016-12-26 19:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a stage, however, stages can be controlled too. He needs to be disciplined so he understands that if he does it again, it will create consequences for him that are not pleasant. Spare the rod, spoil the child. Good Luck
2006-10-14 13:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hummm if he's not grown out of it by now, its not a stage baby doll. You have to be firm on this, you have to tell him that this is no longer acceptable behavior and each time he does it call him on it, even in front of others, a little embarrasment now, he can handle rather than when he's in his teens ok.
2006-10-14 10:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by LunaFaye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you will not stand for it anymore and he's got to stop. Be consistant and never let him get away with it. Never just ignore it, and pretend it didn't happen.
Give him something else to do to replace this bad habit.
Show him a map of the world and get him interested in world affairs.
2006-10-14 10:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him its unacceptable and if he continues you don't want to play with him anymore. Explain your love is unconditional, but you will not tolerate his behavior. Then next time he starts don't acknowledge his bad behavior. If you ignore the bad, and reward the good. You may be pleasantly surprised. Good luck!
2006-10-14 10:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he seem porn or maybe you need to get a little mean with him and tell him thats is wrong and make sure he listen . or spank him just once but not hard . and maybe that would tel; him that is wrong to touch peoples asses. lol well at least sit him on a chair for time out.at least five minutes.
2006-10-14 10:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by THE MOTHERFUCKING PRINCESS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him no and he won't stop discipline him somehow. He wil get out of it. I used to swear when I was little, it was a stage and I grew out of it.
2006-10-14 10:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by gilligan346 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it to his leg and tell him if he likes it. That should freak him out enough to stop. Kids won't listen to you unless you show them why it's bad :)
2006-10-14 10:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by Agata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Push him away, you dont have to take that.
And explain to him you dont feel comfrontable with him doing that and its embarrassing. Hugs are more accepted.
2006-10-14 10:15:06 · answer #11 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋