im 18
never had sex
never dated
never kissed
the paradox is i can flirt etc etc get to the border but
can go on, dunno why
i feal so much stressed bcoz i cant predict what will happen
if i hug or kiss or smth like that
i tryd asking friends they told me everything will be ok
after some fails it got worse then sm1 suggested me to go
to a prostitute so i can feal what its like and cure me from my shyness
so should i go or do smth else ?
coz otherwise its nearly imposible
2006-10-14 10:02:36 · 19 answers · asked by newmike_2004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget about sex for a second. You need to sharpen your social skills. Dating takes skills and practice and you get skills with practice. There is no magic trick or any book that you show you how to do, it.
Find some kind of activity that girls and guys both participate in equally. Not just one that you would like a girl to do. Get involved and you will meet plenty of girls, they are not going to fall out of the sky.
And leave the prostitutes for when your a hundred years old.
2006-10-14 10:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you're just not ready !! Don't go to a prostitute for Pete's sake.. In spite of the way it seems, not everyone is having sex by age 18. When the time and the person are right, you'll be able to go through with it. I was in my mid 20's before the time and person were right. Be grateful that you are blessed with some standards and don't just go out and hump anything that moves. It's a GOOD thing, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Just enjoy your life and don't be in such a hurry for something that will happen in due time.
2006-10-14 10:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by Schleppy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, dont go to a prostitute unless you feel like contracting 500 std's. just relax and know that in time, your needs will be met. i have found that if you rush into things, you tend to regret them. i know it's hard to wait for the right person, but i think the rewards will be greater if you do.
maybe the reason why you're having a hard time or feeling too shy is because you're skipping the step of kissing and dating and only working towards the sex. just wait for the right person, don't try to rush into things...it's ok if you've never dated b/c there are lots of ppl like you (it's just they don't speak up because of the social stigma). just take things slow and relax, and the kissing and dating will come when you feel it's right...and if it doesn't come, then it doesn't come and you can move on to someone else.
2006-10-14 10:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let it lie. When the time comes you will have no problem. When the right girl comes along, you and her will just "merge" and it will be easy. Hopefully, it will be your wife.
Just because other young men and girls are having sex or shacking up doesn't mean that it is for you or that you HAVE to.
Don't be messing with prostitutes!!!! You may bring something home with you that you can't wash off. Ever thought about AIDS??? Can't wash that off.
Do what you want to, even IF it is NOT having sex!!!! Look around you, LOTS of the problems that young people are having, happen because of sex and shacking up. People have a lot of names for young people that have sex and shack up. The proper name for these woman is "whore" and the man is a "Whore hopper". Good luck. Pops
2006-10-14 10:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by Pops 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Listen, there's a really nice girl in your future and she won't care taht you have never had sex, never dated, never kissed, etc. In fact, she may be thrilled that she's going to be the first girl you date, first one you kiss, first one you sleep with.
DON'T GO TO THE HOOKER! Do you want to catch some awful disease or something? That's just sex, not romance, not love, so it teaches you NOTHING.
Look, my BF is shy, he hasn't had a lot of experience and he'd had some bad luck before we met but none of that matters. All I care about is that he's nice to me and makes me laugh.
Practice being nice to all girls that you like. Say things like "That's a pretty outfit you have on" or "Your hair is really pretty." If you're brave, go up close enough to smell them and ask them what perfume they wear. (Only do this if they really are wearing a perfume, OK?)
Open the door for them, offer to carry the heavy thing they're carrying for them, whatever. Just practice being nice and a nice girl will find you attractive.
2006-10-14 10:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to be rushing..good things come in time. just becuase it takes a little longer for you doesnt mean nothing exciting will never happen. like i said if you wait and chill out a little you will have better results then going to a hooker, plus you dont want the first time you do anything to be with some one you picked up from the street you want it to be with someone special.and when you find a girl you like maybe even love you will know any everything will just come easy to you.
2006-10-14 10:07:39 · answer #6 · answered by dazed.and.confused 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come to me, I can help you with that.
But seriously what you should do is you should find that special person and wait for the right moment. I recommend that your first time should be special and with the person you love. Don't just take advantage with some girl just to get layed. It'll feel better with the right person at the right time. TRUST ME!!!!!!
Good luck in making your decisions and I wish you the best.
2006-10-14 10:05:26 · answer #7 · answered by jigenlo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a nice young man, listen up.... a PROSTITUTE WILL NOT HELP YOU GAIN CONFIDENCE.
Geez man, what kind of a friend would suggest that? Do you WANT to get an STD or worse?
stay a virgin until married, and believe me, you will eventually meet a lovely young woman who will love you for you and more because you waited for her!
2006-10-14 10:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you are too hard on yourself. Who says you have to have sex now? If you want to that's one thing, but there's no pressure. I think you should have sex when you are ready.
I don't think you should go to a prostitute...that's just my opinion. You want your first time to be something special, and I don't think going to a prostitute would be remembered fondly - you could get diseases, and I think you would be really disappointed.
This is purely opinion, but I think you should wait and just get comfortable being you. Get comfortable talking with girls, and try to meet someone you really like. But try just being friends with girls first.
It's normal to be scared about sex if you haven't had it before - it's just another new experience. Don't worry about it. Your feelings are normal.
2006-10-14 10:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by lavender 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Contact that girl above that is willing.
Or get a prostitute.
Remember try to hump everything that moves. It's a GOOD thing. Don't let anyone else(she is dumb) tell you otherwise.
Good Luck
2006-10-14 10:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋