i have been kinda hangin out with this guy for awhile now..we have messed around and did some other sexual stuff and we jus spent a whole lot of time together but today hes leaving the state to go sumwher else and i m soo depresed because i got attached to him and REALLY started liking him.whereas i dont think he has that same attachement..and he will proly go ther n play around n meet other girls while i m here feeling so sad n crying..and hes leaving today and i thot he wud cal me to meet him one last time or something but he didnt..i gues he jus had his fun then..and its really tearing me apart that hes leaving...i dont want to tell him my real feelings bcuz i feel embaressed..cuz he dusnt seem to care so why shud i let him knw how i really feel..so how do i handle this...he is leaving today and I am so depresed...TELL ME HOW TO HANDLE THIS..plz...shud i just say bye calmly and let him go....and not look back..n jus forget him...plz tell me how to handle his departure...
2006-10-14 09:59:14 · 20 answers · asked by mani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You diagnoes it correctly, the guy doesn't care about you. Otherwise, he'd stop by to say farewell to you, and he didn't.
OK, it suck to feel being dumped. Admit that it happened and forget all about it. The guy is totally not worth it.
You got used to him, that all. He's moving anyway. It suck that he trated you this way. But all it means he is not worth you time to think about him anymore.
You can say "bye" calmy. Or you can say "get lost stupid unsensitive jerk". See what coinsides better with your heart. What will make you feel better 2 weeks from now.
2006-10-14 10:06:57 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not cool enough to do this, but you should say, have a good time baby, smiling and waving without a tear in your eye. What the heck are you crying for? Your still alive and good looking. He is not the last man on earth. He had fun, but so did you, that's why you feel bad.
After he leaves, feel bad not before. Go home for a day and have your cry and get over it. Otherwise he really does win and has left, dare I say the cliche, another broken heart... That is so old, tired and stale. People don't do that anymore except in the movies. Life is too short.
2006-10-14 10:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of answer are you looking for? No matter what you do, do you think it will change his decision to move on? If you think that telling him how you feel will make him stay, then tell him, but if you don't think it will make a difference other than humiliating yourself, then keep it to yourself.
I think you need to take some time to yourself. You've become too dependent on him and his company and have forgotten how great of a person "you" are. You don't need him to make you happy! Call up some of your friends, go out and have a damn good time. You will look back and realize that you two weren't right for each other anyway.
2006-10-14 10:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Silly ol Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, sorry to say this but you've got a problem,. Your clingy. You should let him go and see if he comes back to you. If he dosen't it just wasen't meant to be. What do you really want to do? Yall could still stay in touch atleast, call or and write each other. and oh by the way, you should tell him how you feel before it's too late and if he dosen't feel the same, move on. It's not good to be clingy, especially if that person dosen't feel the same.
2006-10-14 10:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to surround yourself with a lot of friends and abundance.
Desperation and isolation only breeds contempt. I've been down the depression route before.
1. realize life's too short to dwell on emotionally vacant relationships. Move on. There are much more meaniful relationships out there.
2. cut him out of your life. A clean separation is what's needed here.
3. make yourself stronger. turn that insecurity and loneliness into a fierce force of positive change to be reckoned with. I worked out daily and dropped 40lbs. I dove into making my business stronger. I put my energy into letting loose and making waves.
4. surround yourself with lots of people. Network. Volunteeer. Join singles clubs. Have FUN. Why wallow in pity and resent his leaving. Have the party to pamper yourself and move on. Nothing is holding you back.
5. Positive energy breeds more positive energy. You can't live a happy life without offering happiness to others to start off with. You have to seek this stuff out. Invest in other people's happiness and you will discover yours in the process.
After I realized this... everything got better.
2006-10-14 10:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Iomegan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm telling you, this guy may seem kind of ignorant to your feelings, but that could be just because he dosen't know! Let him know how you feel and that he hurt you. He may feel a new kind of remorse and change his ways. In fact, you may want to ask him to change that just as one last favor to you on departure. Then tell him goodbye and that you wished thing's could've been better. Good luck. Don't be afraid to do it.
2006-10-14 10:06:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say to him, you made me fall in love with you, now you are leaving me. I wonder what he will say about that! By the way you wrote this, you should have know, he made no commitment to you, you just left your self wide open, this is on you, You did this to yourself. Now get yourself together, and deal with your life. Learn from this. Sometimes life deals us a hard hand, but be strong, hold up your head, you will be alright! It will take time.
2006-10-14 10:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion you can tell him how you feel, but im dont think it will make a difference, it may hurt for a bit ,but sooner or later you will meet someone else. life has it s ups and downs nothing wrong with being sad, it will make you enjoy the happy times,ok, if you stay sad , it will make me sad, trust me you wont be single for long, i promise
2006-10-14 10:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by sonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you care. If that doesn't faze him, then you can mark it up that you have been "used" all this time and he is through with you. He figures that "greener pastures" and "new ground" is ahead.
Yes, he will find another sucker when he gets to where he is going. He is a "user". Face it, you have been used. Pops
2006-10-14 10:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by Pops 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let yourself be controlled by this,just forget him,he shows he is not worthy of you!Try to meet someone new and who likes you and tells you he wants to be with you and give his all to you!
2006-10-14 10:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by happy1here♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋