My bf of 2 years lives in Ohio, I'm in South Carolina. More and more he keeps complaining about spending money on plane tickets and gas money to come see me. He says i never appreciate it, but no matter what i do or say its not enough.
I just dont know what to think. Im a college student, i make enough money for food and thats about it. he's already out of school and has a good paying job. I never ask him to buy me anything or let him buy me anything besides the $200 plane ticket once a month.
The last time we fought about this, i told him i didnt want him to come see me anymore until i could pay for the tickets. That means we'll get to see each other once every 3 months. But, is that what has to happen? I want to see him, but im tired of him complaining. what can i do?
2006-10-14 09:58:56 · 12 answers · asked by Freaked out 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you are not a gold digger. You really can't do anything. Just stop asking him to come see you. Let him say he wants to come on his own and act nonchalant about it when he does. Save up your money in the meantime to either visit him or pay for his ticket.
2006-10-14 10:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Let's see - you're a college student and on a tight budget.
He has a good paying full time job and is out of school, but complains about buying a plane ticket to come and see you.
Easy.
Drop him and find a man that would be happy to pay $200 to fly and see you.
When you graduate and have an equally well-paying job, you can split expenses 50/50 with someone, but not now - keep your focus on your school.
2006-10-14 10:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boy doesn't know what he wants. He wants to see you, buys the plane ticket, then complains about spending the money? He has a job. If he is manipulating you through guilt now, it will only get worse with time.
He needs to grow up or start dating someone closer to his geographical area.
My guess is, you could do better than him, you just feel attached because of how long you have been dating.
2006-10-14 10:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by sendmedaisies 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're not a gold digger. He's aware that you're a student and have limited income for the time being so why is he complaining. Anyway, I'd go with the idea of seeing him once every three months. See if he sticks around.
2006-10-14 10:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't be complaining about coming in to see you. If he loves and cares about you, money is no option. He would do anything and everything to see you and that is spending all his money on plane tickets or gas. Maybe it's time to chill for awhile and see what happens from there. I wouldn't waste my time or money to pay for his tickets.
2006-10-14 10:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hes an ***. He should pay-- or at least split it. And he has a job? Hope he really pleases you you know how cuz he sounds like a jerk.
Ps. I'd gladly pay to come see you! Ill take you out to dinner when I get there.
2006-10-14 10:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by tommy w 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he really wanted to see you, nothing could keep him away and he wouldn't complain about the money. I would feel like crap if my boyfriend did that. I don't see that you are a gold digger... not for wanting to see your man.
2006-10-14 10:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by Marla C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on, if he really wanted to be with you, he would pay the 200 bucks.
2006-10-14 10:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by mt_lil 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Easy; find a boyfriend that's local.
Long-distance relationships usually fail anyways.
2006-10-14 10:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to live close to some one , or it's going to be expensive to stay in touch.
2006-10-14 10:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by keithr2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋