so there is this guy that i like but he has a girlfriend. last night i went to a small get-together with a couple of friends and he was there and he got a little tipsy BUT he said he knew wha the was doing while he was hitting on me... so to make a very long story short we ended up sleeping together. He kept asking me before if i was sure i wouldnt regret it ... he was so sweet about it and after we just lay there together cuddling for hours (literally) talking about the most wonderfully random things... but this morning when i left to go to work at 8 he was still sleeping but he called as soon as he woke up and by the way he is acting and the way he talks about her i KNOW he wants to break up with his girlfriend but they've been dating for over 2 years (being 17 thats a long time..) and he doesnt know how to break it to her... and ideas? *sorry its so long*
2006-10-14 09:38:39 · 13 answers · asked by SiLLYsTRiNg4499 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't be helping him think of ideas to break up.
Let him do the job. you shall wait.
It's not a mistake. things happen for a reason. go with the flow. watch how it goes.
2006-10-14 09:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by vintageprincess72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you cant change what happened so he definitly should break up with her because in a way he cheated on her. I would recommend being completly honest because if your friend isnt then the girl could start believing rumors that people will probably spread. My friend "Lana" and her boyfriend "Josh" had been going out for a year and a half when "Lana" cheated on him because she felt she was being controlled in the relationship. Turns out the two of them were completly honest and are okay with the fact and remained friends afterwords. Although people talked about it, it was better to be honest because then "Josh" knew that all the rumors werent true. I would recommend that the break up happens face to face and sooner is better because the longer he has to lie about being in love with her, the harder it will be to break up and let go.
2006-10-14 16:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Rosey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be staright forward with her and tell her exactly what happened and end it with, I'm not in love with you anymore I like someone else. It will be hard, Ive been there before but once its all over it will be a relief. My question is, do you know for a fact that he wants to break it up with her or did he just tell you that to make you feel better so you dont regret sleeping with him?
2006-10-14 16:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay first of all if he really wanted to break up with his girlfriend then he would have found a way to do it......this is his way of having his cake and eating it too. Maybe he found it was easier to sleep with you instead of his GF, it is a sense of excitment that his girlfriend is not giving him. Yeah he is sweet because he is getting his guarantee for another time when he wants to sleep with you. I think that he is going to stay with his girlfriend and keep giving you this lame *** excuse, or if he ends up breaking it off with her, he will probably tell you that he wants to be friends (but will still sleep with you) because he doesn't want to get involved in another realtionship. If I am wrong please e-mail me......but i still wanna know how it goes so e-mail me anyways please....good luck
2006-10-14 16:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just has to tell his girlfriend and be upfront with her that he obviously doesn't love her or care for her the same anymore. But don't let him keep you on the back burner for too long, cause that's just wrong - and Im sure you know that. Even though the truth is going to hurt her, he needs to just be honest - hopefully it works out for all of you.
2006-10-14 16:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is nothing you can do, the ball is in his court. He is the one with the girl friend, If he wanted to leave her he could, guys do it all the time. Just do not sleep with him anymore, until he is free, do not let him have you, and her too, tell him you are not that type of a girl! And do not put your life on hold for him!
2006-10-14 16:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i would tell him that he should break the connection with her, because it doesnt help him if he is just with her and doesnt love her. Give him time, because a relationship for ofer years cant break in just a few minuts. I would help him wen he needs help. Give hom strengst wen he needs. It will be ok. He just has to explan it on the right way.
2006-10-14 16:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jamain_Johnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be ashamed you should of never slept with him knowing he had a girlfriend regardless of him wanting to break up with her. PLUS HE cheated on her so he WILL cheat on you if you end up together"ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER" Good luck
2006-10-14 16:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by apples2oo4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BIG MISTAKE! You knew he had a girlfriend. If they are still dating, they are still a couple. Yes, he cheated on her but that didn't make anything right.
If he would cheat on his girlfriend of two years, he will cheat on you. Shame on you both! Hope you used protection.
2006-10-14 16:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by Aunt Gwenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaking up is like taking off a band-aid, fast and get it over with
2006-10-14 16:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by blueman2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋