I had been single for 2 years now.. Am not being proud, but i know im beautiful.. Im the kinda girl who should not have a problem getting a date.. If im out having coffee or out shopping with friends .. And i happen to run into a good looking guy.. he would just glaze at me .. but never come up to talk to me.. This happens alot with me ... My friends say I come across as being too serious.. How do i resolve this problem???.. I obviously don't wish to end up being alone all my life..
2006-10-14 09:30:58 · 19 answers · asked by julia1975 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can never do it ..its not me.. Am not use to it
2006-10-14 09:39:37 · update #1
Julia, it is the curse of the beautiful woman. The vast majority of men are too shy of making an approach expecting to get a knock back every time. The problem is that the could-not-care-less type of men just march up and make a date. Because of their blase attitude it usually leads to trouble. Can I suggest that you make some sort of approach and help the poor sods out a little. I am afraid I learned all about it far too late in my life (65) and wish I knew when I was sixteen what I have learned now. Good luck in your hunting and throw one or two of them a lifeline............
2006-10-14 09:47:36 · answer #1 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Julia,
First, be content w/ yourself and your life w/o a boyfriend or partner. Examine yourself in all aspects. Have a strong foundation and build good, strong personal attributes on it. If you like yourself and are comfortable w/ yourself, good things will happen. Be yourself, be real, be strong, do what is right despite the cost, and be approachable. Smile a lot - this will show your true inner AND outer beauty, and will draw people to you. Be kind, warm, and compassionate - this will show your heart. Humor, laughter, and a positive attitude are attributes that will serve you well in every aspect of life. They can also be a tremendous help in tough times. Stretch yourself in areas of goodness and discipline, and follow your heart AND mind, not just one of the two. Go the extra mile witha friend, relative, or companion when the situation dictates it. To make friends (to include boyfriends, get a date, or find a lifelong mate), you should be friendly. As I tell my children, you can never have too many friends. Maybe a friend can become more than a friend - that's how my spouse and I began - or a friend can introduce you to someone who can. Fervently pursue life and your goals. Enjoy your friends, family, and every moment you can. IDENTIFY YOUR GOD-GIVEN GIFTS, USE THEM, AND HONOR GOD WITH THEM.
Hope one or more of the replies you receive will help you find not just dates, but lifelong happiness!
2006-10-14 10:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by SHARON R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most of my friends are women, younger than me women.
Most that complain to me that guys only go for looks and don't look at the personality, well the reason that they are only my buddies/friends is because OF their personality.. I don't like their personality..(they soon leave my group of friends) - could looks be the same, kinda.?
When I was younger (when I still had my looks) I was approached only by women interest mostly in looks..!!!! Later as my looks diminished, I was approached by women that mostly wanted my stuff(money and things)!
Well, I was, and am, interested in a deeper relationship than one based on looks only or money only.
I am convinced that most women want a strong bonding relationship. HOWEVER that is not what comes to me...
I believe that most seeking a relationship - are weakness based!!!!
that is they are looking for someone that will offset or compensate for their own weakness. Whereas I am looking for someone similar to me, same strengths, etc.
This is NOT the women that seem interested in me!!!!
So I've been alone a long time and may be for the rest of my life...
There are worse things than being alone!!!!!!!
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"but never come up to talk to me.."
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So, why don't you go talk to them?
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Those women that want to play chase, (me chase them), since this is a game and I want serious, end up running away!!!
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2006-10-14 10:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by DM 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anyway, when people are single and available for dating they have a certain signal that they send out by the expression on their face, how they dress and how they carry themselves.
If a person got over a serious breakup, sometimes the "mate measuring dial" is turned up too high. The mate measure sends out the signals to busters, users and losers that your not available. If it's set too high, it drives off good people.
Try smiling, not grinning, more. Practice by looking in the mirror.
2006-10-14 09:46:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Julia, what makes you think that beautiful people are more successful with the opposite sex?
I mean that just as many ordinary looking people have partners as attractive people do. I think your problem is that you don't look friendly because of that serious air you mention.
Friendliness is the biggest attractor of the opposite sex. Try being more friendly and you'll notice the difference straight away. Believe me.
2006-10-15 07:33:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problem with women that are too good looking is that most guys won't even bother since he thinks he's "out of her league" or that she's probably already with someone.
If you see a good looking guy and you like him and he's not approaching you then approach him. If you're as hot as you say you are you'll have no problem getting a date.
2006-10-14 09:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by none 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
someone is coming soon when you have been along for a long time than something will happen the special one is coming just look for a special thing to happen and that very day you will see him coming at you. and ask your name that is because he want to talk to you.
there are a lot people that like me that are just afraid to tell because they are going to look at there friends and say what will they think if i go talk to her. boy need to stop think about that an just ask us girls. good luck why "because he's coming"
2006-10-14 09:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by alexandria b 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Even good looking guys gets afraid of being rejected. Just try to give the guy (you like) a hint like looking at him or smile or any other thing you find suitable. Good luck :)
2006-10-14 09:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Either your hott like the sun ... which means its too hard too approach you because they think they'll get burnt..
or your ugly and looking at u is like looking at the sun.. it hurts there eyes,,
its really ez to fix the problem.. wear Lacoste and make sure you don't have a ring on the marriage finger.
2006-10-14 09:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
they may have a grilfriend already, or maybe they sense you're anxious and get scared, but don't worry so much, some guys are really cocky and the act like that because they don't mind hurting girls, they wanna look real cool, forget about them and focus on the nice ones
2006-10-14 09:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋