Me and my sons mom are seperated and share custody with my son. I dont like the way that she diciplines him or the way he acts when he comes with me. He is with hi mother more days out of the week then I am. If I tell her I don't like the way she deals with him she gets mad. What should I do?
2006-10-14 09:20:18 · 10 answers · asked by ePCdoctor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You guys need to sit down together and decide together how you're going to dicipline your son. Then you both need to agree to do that. Everyone has different ideas on how to raise kids, even people who stay married!! The key is to figure out something you can both agree on and stick to it!!
2006-10-14 09:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by Joy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you and your son's mother can be mature enough to sit down and discuss the ways to discipline your child. The two of you should both be interested in making your child's well-being the priority and you need to agree to use the same methods. No matter what your issues are with each other, your child is the only thing that matters here and I hope you both want the very best for him and are willing to make that happen by being cooperative with each other where he's concerned.
2006-10-14 09:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For your son's sake, try to find a solution with his mother. Otherwise, if your divorce wasn't very civilized (most divorces aren't), you should expect your son to hate you in a few years due to his mother's education. Therefor, you should discuss with both of them and see what's the best thing to do.
2006-10-14 09:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless your ex is abusing the child, there is nothing you can do or say about the situation. What you need to do is makes rules for your house and enforce them consistently. If your son complains "This isn't the way Mom does it.", calmly explain to your son Mommy has rules at her house, and Daddy has rules at his house. If your son (or your ex) try to complain about what you're doing at your house, calmly explain that "What happens at Mom's house stays at Mom's house, and what happens at Dad's house stays at Dad's house." Otherwise, you'll drive yourself crazy trying to change somebody that you are divorced from when you couldn't change them during your marriage.
2006-10-14 09:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually you don't share "custody" with your son if she has him most of the week. What you have is SHE is the "custodial parent" and YOU have weekly visitations which is "normal" in such cases. Stop telling her how to parent. In HER home she is the boss and is entitled to parent the way SHE sees fit.
2006-10-14 09:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm 13 but my mom and dad split up and i dont like the way my mom treats me over my sister and her boyfriend and i live w/ my mom and go to school and on thursdays and the weekends i stay w/ my dad . you just have to find out how to work things out and there isnt really any thing u can do
2006-10-14 09:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to be yourself with your son. What she do is good from her point,. You do what is good from your point of view. Any way she is not bad mother and spend more time with the son and can have more stress then you.
2006-10-14 09:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down and try to talk to her.If u go to her in away that she thinks you're just trying to do what is best for your kid,Then she might listen.If she thinks your just putting her down then you might as well forget it.Good luck
2006-10-14 09:26:18 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
may be u should have thought about that before deciding to have a child...
2006-10-14 09:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by Innocence 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
contact your laywer
2006-10-14 09:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by blueman2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋