i joined the navy than i met mark, i love him to death. im even thinking about asking him to marry me. its not that i dont like it up here. its just that i miss everything back home. im depressed all the time. sick also. i just need to figure out what to do. "dont ask, dont tell" just seems like a whimpey way to go even if i am guy.
2006-10-14 08:58:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
First of all how the heck you online at yahoo answers? Hmmm.
Next, you joined up. You made a commitment to the Navy, to the United States and most importantly to YOURSELF.
This might sound harsh but SUCK IT UP (no pun intended). Seriously. You need to focus on where you are and who you are. When I say who I don't mean straight gay or bi I MEAN A SAILOR son. You joined up. You have an obligation.
You signed up on your own free will. You must of had your reasons for doing so. If you have true love it will be there for you later. Right now focus on being the best damn SAILOR you can. That's whats really important NOW>
Get offline and stop horsing around. Our country needs you. We depend on you.
Be Proud.
Thank you for serving our country and being there to protect all of us Gay, Straight, and Bi. We need men like you in the service. Stay and make us all PROUD>
2006-10-14 09:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
If you walk up to your CO and claim that you are gay, he'll laugh at you. If you are sick enough, you can flunk your fitness test. Flunk it enough times and you can get a medical discharge.
Or you can arrange to get "caught." As long as you are not on duty when you get "caught" it won't be a criminal offense, but it will get you kicked out of the service. They should give you a honorable dischange, for anyone to get less than that it usually means some kind of crime.
BTW, back when I was in US Army AIT in Fort Gordon, GA., we had a PFC that did just that. She let one of the drill sergeants catch her with another female private (who also wanted out), knowing that they couldn't sweep it under the rug. It was less than six months after don't ask, don't tell came into effect.
I am sure most of the people you work with doesn't really give a crap that you are gay, but they would rather not have you around if you don't want to be there.
2006-10-14 16:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by veraperezp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before trying to get out, why not try to see the doc and see if he can give you some medicine for the depression. Everyone has problems sometimes, you just aren't adjusting well. How much time do you get to spend off ship? If it is a significant amount move your partner out where you are and get a place out in town together, if anyone ask he is a friend from back home who was having problems and needed to get away for awhile. Good luck. It is better to stick it out and be discharged honorably than to try to scam and get out earlier.
2006-10-14 16:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by fin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you miss him so much and dont want to be in the military try to find another way to get out. Pretty much any way you do this is going to be "wimpy". Because the strong thing would be to wait out your time and then be free to do what ever you want with your life. I am not pro military and I am not antil gay either. I am just telling you the truth. Pretty much the only ways out are mental issues, disability, and the dont tell policy.
2006-10-14 16:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by Cat D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NOONE is worth it.. no boyfriend, no girlfriend, nobody. What happens if you and Mark break up? no Navy, no partner, no life.
do your time honorably and get out. then if Mark is still around, great. you will have all your veteran's bennies( GI Bill, VA Loan, etc) and be able to embark upon the next phase of your life.
2006-10-14 20:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gay in the navy? Imagine that... haha.
And I hope someone realizes who you are and your *** gets arrested... and DD'd. If you think they would just give you a slap on the wrist and kick you out, you're in for a suprise.
2006-10-14 16:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by futurefbiguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would your friend want someone who can't keep a commitment. You made a commitment when you joined the Navy. Do your time and quit whining.
2006-10-14 16:03:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
smoke a little dope, then wait for a drug test. the worst that will happen is captain's mast, 2 weeks in the brig, and an other than honorable discharge, which basically means nothing. it won't bar you from a job, and you legally don't have to disclose to anyone why you were discharged. then you're home free!
2006-10-14 16:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by margarita 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go up and Kiss the bosun's mate. You'll be out fairly quick.
2006-10-14 16:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by mharrop@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the Navy, find a boyfriend there should be plenty around.
2006-10-14 16:06:03 · answer #10 · answered by parshooter 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋