I am completey devistated and heart broken. I've been searching the web for quotes or sayings to put in writing for the family (trying to make them feel better), but I haven't found anything that fits. I know this is a dumb place to turn, but I'm out of ideas. Any nice words or prayers would be helpful. Thanks.
2006-10-14 08:36:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Pretty quotes are nice, and sometimes a well-written piece of poetry says EXACTLY what you wish to say.
But the best words, to help somone you love, are the one's from your own heart. These words don't have to be literary gems. You seem, from your question, not to be looking for approval, but rather, you want, as you say to "make them feel better."
Get in touch with your feelings. Ask yourself, "Why do I feel so bad?" Is it because your niece is not coming to visit? Is it because she was your "best friend/relative?" Is it mostly that you feel bad for the rest of the family and their grief?
Next, think about what you want the rest of the family to know. Of course, you want them to know your feelings, but more than that, how do you want those feelings expressed. Do you want to say, "I feel so bad, please feel sorry for me." That may be a very real feeling in you heart. You wouldn't say it that way, but it's fair to make that a part of what you want them to know. It may be that you could tell this this very thing by saying, "I really know what some of what you guys feel, because I hurt so much, I need hugs, too." It may help them feel stronger by being able to help you.
You may want to tell them that you have the strength to help the rest of the family, in some way. You can tell them that you can babysit some young ones for a while, while other adults may want to cry and let loose. Or watch a pet, or water some plants, or cook a meal.
Or your contribution may be to share some stories about your niece. "I remember when she and I ...." "Do you remember when you guys went ...."
The most important thing is for you to share YOUR feelings. No one in the family is going to find the least fault with how you say it. There is no way that a poem by a famous writer will tell anyone your feelings better than you can.
I hope you can understand that it would be the wrong thing for you to "show off" your literary talents, when the focus should be on the celebration of your niece's life, and getting the rest of the family through their grief.
Take care of youself, then help take care of them.
2006-10-14 10:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Vince M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best comfort you can give them may be your presence, and your love, even without words. Just being there doing stuff for them to help them get through the next difficult days and months.
If you can't be with them, start an 'angel chain' among their friends. Set up a schedule among friends and family members so that someone is checking on them either in person or by phone every day, and several times a day at first.
2006-10-14 08:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by Puzzler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 04:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had a rose
For every time
I think of you
I would walk
Through a
Beautiful garden
Forever.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I believe that all children are Angels and sometimes, they are just too good to stay here. Their Creator wants them back to save them from future suffering here. Bless your heart. I hope that time will pass quickly for you and heal your wounds as time seems to be the only thing that can. I will pray for you. She is okay. She doesn't want you to be sad and full of grief. She is incredibly happy where she is and sorrows, knowing you are grieving for her. Time does heal wounds. It really does. I know you miss her, but you will see her someday. Have faith. ((((Sheri)))))
2006-10-14 08:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the Grief Recovery Group. It is a website for those who have lost loved ones.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Here is a poem read at my beloved son-in-law's memorial:
Some people come into our lives
and quickly go.
Some people move our souls to dance...
They awaken us to a new understanding
with the passing whisper of their wisdom.
Some people make the sky
more beautiful to gaze upon.
They stay in our lives a short while,
leave footprints on our hearts
And we are never, ever the same.
2006-10-14 08:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that comes to my mind is to say that somebody we've loved will always on our minds and that time will help getting over it even if we will never forget him/her.All in all it's just a matter of time.Soon or late we all will be gone and we live hoping to see each other one day again
2006-10-14 08:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by Brenno 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start a site at Memory-of.com. It's a good way to allow family and friends to get their memories and thoughts to her family.
2006-10-14 17:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am deeply sorry for your loss i can just imagine what your family must be going through i often find solace in the 23rd paslm ....and i will keep your neice in my prayers ps again i am truly sorry for your loss may god keep her close to the angels for play until yous meet again.....E may god bless you always
2006-10-14 08:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by ellie_m1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, i really feel bad for you i cant imagine what your going threw, but i think you should just speak your mind, dont keep it bottled up.
2006-10-14 09:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am terribly sorry for your loss and i hope you will overcome it , and my suggestion is go to the psichyatrist and ask him for his help , again I say that i am sorry and i hope that this will work
2006-10-14 08:40:52 · answer #10 · answered by the_underdog_show 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋