I'm 18 and I have never had sex of any kind. Every guy I have dated since i was fourteen dumped me since he found out that he won't be getting any, ever. So is sex really that important to save for marriage like I planned? I mean what’s the point if I’m going to end up cheated on when i get married because of my "inexperience"?
2006-10-14 08:32:21 · 19 answers · asked by i4ever_2009 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the reason i feel this way is because that abstinence crap they taught us in school really got to me.
2006-10-14 08:43:05 · update #1
You won't get cheated on because of inexperience. You'll get cheated on cuz you married the wrong guy. Speaking as a man, Cosmo and all those other rags are wrong and they are robbing women blind, when they run those "how to please your man' or "best sex ever" mags. Just the fact that you are naked, in our bed, while we are there, is pretty cool.
2006-10-14 08:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mike Honcho 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to think about what is the most important decision for you. I may be a bit idealist but I feel that you will be able to find a future husband that can respect and appreciate you for having that value. There are many ways that you can gain experience that does not include having sex. There is a lot of literature on sex and it can help you learn.
However if you feel that waiting until marriage is no longer what you wish to do then there is no reason to feel ashamed about having sex. Sex is an extremely personal decision and only you can decide what is right for you.
Personally I don't believe in waiting until marriage. Whatever you decide go for it with education and saftey. Know that the decision you make is the right decision.
2006-10-14 08:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by echo021782 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what other people think about your decision. When you, and only you, are comfortable with your sexuality, then you make the choices. Sex is a normal part of a healthy relationship but relationships can be wonderful without sex. Just because you don't "put out" or have a "lack of experience", don't bother with men who are only interested in being with you for sex. Love can flourish without sex. If it's your choice to wait until marriage, first, good for you and second, the person you decide to be with should respect you for your decision.
2006-10-14 08:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by coolguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let them wait, if they can't then they are obviously only after sex and not love, trust or respect. A marriage cannot work without love, trust and respect. I only ever made love to one woman and she is the one I married, it is unfortunate that we are now separated but nevertheless the fact she loved me enough to share such an intimate experience with me was very special and made me realise that we had something very special.
Ditch the losers, you will be so much happier in the long run.
2006-10-14 09:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People are so smart.. For me it's about waiting until you really fall in love. That's when you should have sex. Over 50% of marriages end in divorce. Sex is about love not marriage. Marriage is after you fall in love. How would you know if your in love without having sex? That's the question
2006-10-14 08:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy dumps you because he realises he is not going to get any, then he is only after you for one thing. I really admire you for waiting until you marry one day. And be assured, you will meet a man who will love and respect you for who you are. Go well, and God Bless!
2006-10-14 08:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Scabius Fretful 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL....that's not the intercourse, however the emotional connection that truly concerns. whilst somebody cares approximately you, they provide you some emotional connection, you comprehend...that's what that's extremely approximately. A loving touch, a sort be conscious, the actual closeness, protecting one yet another lovingly....those are the real deal, not lots the old out and in!
2016-10-16 04:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it and don't drop your moral values for anyone. Anyone who wants you to, doesn't care about you. Why should you care about them?
In my opinion, sex it terribly over rated. Its fun in a comfortable situation but it can be hell if it isn't.
Take your time and follow your own conscious. The most important thing is that you don't lose yourself as your own best friend and companion.
2006-10-14 08:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, dear. Sex is not a big deal. Some of us have to go through that, some religiously and also as an individual act. And you be strong, yeah. Stand by your word and dont let them trample u. I love u. Finally someone is with me!!!
2006-10-14 08:37:09 · answer #9 · answered by IcyBlue2412 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sex is only worth it if you're doing it with the right person anyway, so no. I can go without it, but everyone is different.
Don't give up your morals, if he's the one for you, he'll wait, and he won't cheat either.
2006-10-14 08:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by Deleted 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋