I recently started dating this amazing guy. Its gettting pretty serious but I think for our own comfort we're taking things really slow. This morning I was playing w/him and as we were all eating breakfast 2gether and he called me mommy twice. Both of us were a little shocked and wejust made sure to repeat my 1st name to him repeatedly. I just want a little advice on the situation...
2006-10-14 08:12:58 · 24 answers · asked by Kyppa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Remember, he's only two. So while you want to teach him to call you by your name, don't make a big deal out of it either. He sees you as the adult female when he's with dad,and he is making connections is his mind with what he sees with other mommy's. like his own, or his playmates.
2006-10-14 08:15:43 · answer #1 · answered by leavemealonestalker 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The little guy likes you, maybe he sees you as a mommy figure, but in case things don't work out, I'd try and have the little guy call me by my name, kids that age are adaptable, but he should still understand that you are not mommy. Where is his real mommy? If she shares custody with the father, she may not appreciate having some other lady be called "Mommy" and that may cause the dad to have problems with her in the future.
2016-05-22 01:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were having breakfast with them, does that mean you spent the night with them?
Even a two year old realizes that this is the role reserved for "mommy". As they say, "out of the mouths of babes...."
If this is the case, you are screwing up everybody's life. If you are truly serious about the dad and he's serious about you, then you don't need to be shacking up to prove it.
Why should dad do anything more about the situation? If the milk is free, why buy the cow?
2006-10-14 08:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by idiot detector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was three when I first started dating my now husband. He knows his Dad and at that time spent every other weekend with him, but would still sometimes slip up and call the BF Daddy. He would catch himself and say "oh I mean ******". I think that what you have done by repeating your name to him is a good way to deal with the situation, I would suggest to not read too much into it or make too big of a deal out of it. My niece called me mommy all the time when she was 3 and I was babysitting her when my sister worked, I would simply say, Silly, Im not mommy im aunt *****. I have now been married about 6 months and my son still sometimes slips up and calls my husband Daddy, and sometimes he even calls him by a nickname hes given him.
2006-10-14 08:36:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be loving and be sure to reiterate your name, it may make you feel a little warm inside if said at the right time however there is nothing cool about it what so ever. You just keep being a good person and show him lots of love, but tell him your name. Don't say "I'm not your mommy", that is totally different and both of them might find that 'offensive'!
2006-10-14 09:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by K. C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that you need any advice.
It sounds like you have a pretty good thing going so far.
I'm assuming that you dont have children of your own. Children often confuse females in their life as being their mother. Especially if mommy hasnt been around for a while.
I think you've done the right thing in repeating your name.
The best advice is to talk to your boyfriend about it. Seriously, two people make a better team, than one.
2006-10-14 08:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by Clark W Griswold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't make to big a deal out of it, especially in front of the child, but when he calls you mommy, just repeat your name to him OR come up with a nickname that he can pronounce really well. That way he has a special name to call you. But I wouldn't get on to him about it, and if there is a chance (in the future) that you might become step mom, well then he can still call you the special nickname you guys picked out.
2006-10-14 08:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by magnolia_76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural for a 2 year old to want a mommy and if you are of maternal age and getting close to the child, that is how he will think of you. Also, if you are around the child and you love children, it is natural for you to fall in love with the child. Please beware! It happened to me and I fell in love with both the father and the child, (he was a widower) We later broke up and I was left with a double broken heart. Perhaps you should keep your dating away from the child until you and the guy have decided that you are definitely for each other.
I really wish you luck, I have never been the same.
2006-10-14 08:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's 2 it will stop when he learns who you really are. I have a neighbor who's kid calls every guy he sees daddy because his real father is overseas and hasn't learned who dad is because he doesn't see him in a months. Just keep repeating whatever name you want the child to call you and eventually it will stick. granted if your living together most of the time if not full time most kids might start calling you mom at younger ages since they see family on TV and if your there 24/7 or nearly that they would assume you are mom
2006-10-14 08:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by topgunpilot22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww. That is really cute! Just smile and laugh it off. He's two years old.. Dont take it too seriously. If anything you should be really happy that his little boy is looking up to you like that. It will just make everything a bit easier if you guys end up getting married and spending your lives together. Atleast you know that the little one will not have any beef with you!! Haha. Dont think about this too long though.. Its really not that big of a deal!! :-) Congrats on meeting an "amazing" guy though! :-)
2006-10-14 08:16:29 · answer #10 · answered by y0ur_l0ve_is_suicide 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋