When my boyfriend and I first started dating he'd buy me really nice things all the time. For our first Christmas toghether he bought me a CD player and a VCR for the family. I got a dimond necklace for our 1st Valentine, he's bought me a leather jacket for riding his motorcycle with him and a Jeep our 2nd Christmas, a Harley just because, a dirt bike last Christmas, and alot more. As you can see he has basically spoiled me these last few years. I keep telling him I'd love him with or without the gifts. The spoiling has stopped now. I feel he has was so good to me to get him to love him and want him, now he has me and is seeing if the love stops when the gifts stop. I love him no matter what gifts or not so I don't care if he gets me things. My question is "Does it sound like he trapped me then stopped to see if I'd stay with only his love holding me or is it possibly something else?"
2006-10-14 08:08:35 · 8 answers · asked by robbie347 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He bought all the gifts with cash nothing to pay off. He makes good money. I just think he knows he has me and is just giving me his love as a gift and I will except it with all, heart. I never asked for the goodies and would never leave him just cause he doesn't give them to me as much.And I know he isn't seeing anyone else because I trust our relationship.
I DID NOT ask this question to be called names, Just to get an opinion about my feelings.
2006-10-14 08:25:18 · update #1
Sounds like he realizes that he's won your love and may be saving for something better down the road. Either that or he's broke.
2006-10-14 08:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by Buck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the "something else", is that you keep telling him you would love him with or without the gifts. Perhaps he took this as a hint that you did not want so many of them, perhaps that they make you uncomfortable. You shouldn't send mixed messages. If you did want the gifts, you should have given him a gracious "Thank you", and reinforced the gift-giving by speaking often and fondly of how much you love getting gifts from him. As it is, he probably stopped because he wasn't really getting reinforcement. Or, maybe the gifts were because he was spreading around the wealth because he was getting bonuses at work, or his business was doing well, or whatever; and now things are a little tighter for him financially. Anyway, those are some possibilities other than the shady motives you are suspecting.
2006-10-14 15:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few possible reasons for the presents stopping. For one you could be right and he is testing you to see if you'll stick around without all the gifts. Another reason is maybe there is another woman in his life whom he is now buying for. A third and less upsetting thought is that maybe his finances are a little low right now. Do you know how his bank account looks? If he still has the same finances that he did before, then I think that it has to be one of the first two reasons. Be sure not to jump to any conclusions, because you might ruin a good thing over something as stupid as a smaller bank account. good luck!
2006-10-14 15:15:13 · answer #3 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging by all that he bought you... maybe he's just taking a break to pay off the daimond necklace, the jeep, the Harley, the dirt bike, and all other manner of exceedingly expensive gifts. Maybe he needs the money to make payments on all of that.
2006-10-14 15:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by feral_black_gryphon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 2 years, he should have married you. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? You need to get a definite date or it's over. It sounds like he has already lost interest.
2006-10-14 15:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to leave him? You love him with or without receiving any type of physical gifts. It doesn't sound like he trapped you. It's adoration.
2006-10-14 15:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Fia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think he trapped you but i do think he is testing you, just give it time he might be planning something special
2006-10-14 15:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by queentiger2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a malignant narcissist
look it up in the dictionary
2006-10-14 15:12:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋