Thinking of another man is a sin?

Question

20 years ago, the man I loved dumped me for another. I never truly got over him. I married someone else & had 2 kids. He is now divorced and I've been thinking of him more. My hubby does not understand sin and forgiveness. Do I need to tell him? Or just give it to God?

Answer 1

Give it to God. Don't hurt him needlessly.

Answer 2

I think your problem is that you are bored with your marriage after a long time, with all the work and 2 kids and the rest. You don't appreciate what you have now and are chasing a time when you were younger and had less responsibilities and more dreams - now you have reality. It would be hard for you to accept what I said.

You should accept this new reality and work with it. Appreciate what your hubby and family and friends have to offer. Solve any problems that can be solved. And find a work around for some problems that cant be solved and avoid others for which you have no other options. Make dreams for the future based on your current life with your years of experience and your maturity, with what you have now. And there's no harm in dreaming big - but just don't forget or lose what you have right now.

Answer 3

Everyone-EVERYONE-thinks of at least one person of the opposite gender when they're in a relationship, regardless of whether they admit it; a fleeting thought, a memory, a glance, etc. But if you never got over the person, you probably should have held off getting in a relationship. Since you are in one now, though, I suggest you do the whole 'shabang' to get over the other guy. Get hubby outta the house. Put on sad music, get out pictures of the other guy (and anything else that reminds you of him), light candles, get tissues and ice cream, and cry. Go nuts over him, sob, wail, daydream about him, whatever. Then throw all the stuff out (or put it in a little shoebox in a far, spider-filled corner of your attic) and leave things be. Remind yourself that you have a great husband and wonderful children and you wouldn't give those things up for the world--much less some old creep who treated you badly. (which in my opinion was his loss) <3

Answer 4

You don't need to tell your husband. It would only hurt him. A guy that dumped you for another is not worthy of your thoughts. Life is what you make it. Do some fun things with your hubby and fall in love with him all over again.

Answer 5

If the man dumped you than with kind of life could you possible hope fopr wiht him now. If you have ot have sex outside yuour marriage(and many people do for one reason or the other) than find some one new, not that dog:):).
Don't sweat god he's a myth and need not be feared. It's the hubby you should fear. Keep itot your self ot soemoen close who will not talk.
Email me i can keep a secret:):):):)

Answer 6

Seems like you took second choice, I pity the man you married.... You Settled, this is not your husband's fault, no need to make him jealous over some guy who tossed you by the wayside. I bet if you did get him this late in the game, he wouldn't meet up to the perfect image you have of him on your fantasies

Answer 7

Give it over to God to handle.
You will always want the one that got away but everyone I know who did get back together with that person did regret it and now they no longer had that good memory of that person.

Answer 8

give it to God. stop thinking about the other guy. the thoughts themselves are not sin, however if you continue to feed them you are more likely to give in to them. that would be the sin.

Answer 9

Keep your thoughts to yourself. There's nothing wrong with thoughts. If you aren't going to do anything about it, I guarantee that telling your husband will open a can of worms.

Answer 10

just ask God to help you I hope you love your husband more