We have been dating for one year and recently i found out that she lies about almost everything! ,for example :-she wanted to meet a guy n she had me escort her believing it was her uncle, only to start panicking when i went too far fearing i would know her secreat.... a man calls her n she dares lie that it's her aunt , thinking that I didn't hear a mans voice.... she comes to my digs every weekend n this to her proves that she loves me...she lied about having brothers only for me to find she didn't!....she is so bad in bed and no matter how i try to spice things, she doesn't improve! I saw her photo on the web in a guys profile!...on asking her she told me that it was a cousin?? only 4 me to find it was her ex!..I wanna leave her but she cries every day...she says she loves me!.......how do call it off without hurting her?
2006-10-14 07:27:16 · 21 answers · asked by cooldee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to get out of this, a relationship based on a lie is bad enough but seems the deeper you search, the less you can trust her. Move outta there as fast as possible, and good luck!
2006-10-14 07:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, my name is Mandy and I'm a compulsive liar.
Seriously.
Your girlfriend is in need of help. It's normal to lie about some things, but for your girlfriend to lie about having brothers or to try to say that the man on the phone is her aunt, indicates that she has a really serious problem.
I think it's understandable that you would leave, and almost definately the best thing. You don't have all that much commitment right now, so there seems to be very little holding you to the relationship.
I'm thankful that my husband didn't give up on me, because I have gotten a LOT better (about not lying, not about not getting caught) over the past year or so, but it required me to face what I am and put safeguards out there to keep me from lying. This means my husband has access to my emails (I have access to his, too), my name isn't on our checking account (my biggest problems have always been about money) and I have to give up a lot of independance in order to get better, not to mention, some SERIOUS counseling for both of us, and my having to accept without getting defensive that he will have a very very very difficult time believing me without being able to check up on what I'm saying, at least for a while.
It's a lot of work, and a lot of heartbreak on my husband's part. Our relationship is currently stronger than ever, but I really think we're the exception, not the rule. And the commitment we've both made to get through this has been HUGE.
In this case, however, I would get out. Considering the hurt and inconsideration she's given you, I think it would be perfectly fair to say "I just can't believe a word that comes out of your mouth anymore, and I don't deserve to have to deal with that." She can say she loves you all she wants, but her actions aren't showing that.
2006-10-14 14:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for six years, and in a realtion ship for eight years with my wife, who is exactly this type of woman.
She is a slu-ut.
There is an old saying.
"you can't turn a whore) into a housewife."
I know from personal experience that this is true.
Get out now, while you still can. The short term pain for both of you will go away, and you dont want to imagine what a hell it will be if you stay.
2006-10-14 14:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by professorpippyppoopypants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u should just call it off, bc she didn't think about your feelings when she told u all of those lies, and if she did, she would of just told u the truth to save yall from getting to where yall are at now. So just tell her it is over piont blank, and if she ask y, u have every right so say b*tch, u kno y, and i;m not explianing sh*t 2 u, bye. Have fun, calling it off with her.
2006-10-14 14:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by xxMiizzCxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave her.
who cares if she gets hurt???
you shouldnt.
she deserves it.
gah.
that girl is pathetic.
you should tell her exactly how you feel
and
tell her your tired of her lying
and
that yall are through.
just tell her how it is.
and
if she cries.
dont worry about it.
dont let that get you down.
she deserves to cry her little heart out.
you deserve WAY better.
theres more people out there.
and
probably someone who is nicer and wont lie to you about everything.
youll be okay with out her.
youll find someone knew not to long from now.
and
theyll make you feel a whole lot better..
hope everything goes okay.
:]
good luck.
2006-10-14 14:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by whitney t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said here, I can only deduce that this girl has a problem with Fibbing and if it were me, I would leave her (run for the hills!). She doesn't know what she wants and you will hurt her worse by prolonging the inevitable.
2006-10-14 14:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by Harley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot continue to have respect for a liar so why waste your time. They only cause you hurt and confusion. Just leave her. So she cries, she will cause you to cry at some point.
2006-10-14 14:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by M. J. B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't date that girl any more unless u think that she can b fixed but if she kept lying 2 u then leave her and CAN'T U THINK she tried 2 see another guy while u r still not commited in any thing so dump her as fast as u can
2006-10-14 14:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with a liar is to get them out of your life. Lie, if you have to.
2006-10-14 14:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is why are you still there? If she is a compulsive liar that means you cannot trust her and without trust what do you have? Tell her to shut up and stop crying and pack your stuff!
2006-10-14 15:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋