heres my problem: 3 months ago, i met this wonderful guy..and everything was going great upuntil 3 weeks ago..he started to become distant and we started to see less of each other. last week he told me he had met someone else, but we could remain freinds..but now whenever i contact him, he doesnt want to talk to me saying hes busy. i still love him,and want to be his mate,so why is he treating me like this? advice, anyone?
2006-10-14 07:21:48 · 35 answers · asked by missy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's always a bit of a cop out when they say we can remain friends and it never ends up that way. Best to put him out of your head and find someone worthwhile. He doesn't love you and harsh as it is he obviously doesn't want to have contact now.Don't be depressed about him, move on...best way to get over a man is to get under one !!!
2006-10-14 08:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Saskia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl get over him and move on. Why do you want to be someone's mate when they ignore you 24/7. Get someone who will actually pay attention to you. Girl get some pride and stop calling him. Maybe you think that you are in love, but it may be more of an illusion. Move on, date other guys and forget about him. Someday if that girl dumps him he'll come crawling back to you, so then you'll get your revenge and do the same thing to him. Whatever you do don't go back to him.
2006-10-14 07:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by melivaga2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if this young man has moved on, honey. Nothing turns a guy off more than a girl that 'chases' him. So why don't you find a new interest, join some clubs at school or church, new classes or hobbies and when he sees how interesting you are he may come around and if he doesn't, I bet there are a lot of guys out there who will be interested!
2006-10-14 07:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by Harley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was letting you down easy..because guys are little b*tches and it's hard for them to come clean about things. He wants to be with this other girl and has no intention of being with you in anyway. He doesn't want to be friend and most likely if he starts to talk to you it just for a piece of azz or to keep you around in case this new girl leaves him. I'm sorry to tell you this stuff...but it's just how it goes. Good luck in finding someone that deserves you!
2006-10-14 07:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to have friends as the opposite sex, though alot will say it isnt...but it is difficult and hard to do. You need to find a way to move on, even if he was willing to be friends and just do regular stuff with you as friendship, since you still love him it would just continue to do damage to you inside. But since he seems to be avoiding you, then you DEFINITELY need to move on and start the healing process. You dont deserve to hold on and to keep hoping for something that wont happen or better yet something that he dont want to happen. Heal yourself, move on and hopefully you'll find someone who knows they are lucky to have an opportunity with you. Good luck!
2006-10-14 07:29:32 · answer #5 · answered by Batman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he said he just wants to be friends and you still feel more than that, he can probably sense that. He probably just doesn't want to have to deal with that and is therefore trying to break off all communication with you. The hard part is getting over him. Once you've done that, than the easy part is maintaining a friendly relationship with him. If he knows all you're really looking for is friendship, than he won't be opposed to talking to you.
2006-10-14 07:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to move on. I mean at least you found out he was this way 3 months into the relationship instead of 3 years into the relationship.
2006-10-14 07:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by Leah * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u really don`t want someone like that in ur life. i think ur hoping that he will come back to u. be kind to urself and try forget about him. ur a nice person that deserves much better and he`s an idiot. the more u try the more it will hurt. i know from experience. i know it`s probably not wot u wanted to hear but if u were my mate then as a mate that would be the advice i`d give u. i wish u all the best in ur future. please think about wot i said
2006-10-15 02:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in the exactly the same situation and 9 weeks on my ex and i have had no contact. He claimed that he loved me but he also loved his ex too.
I feel now after nine weeks of hurting and pulling my hair out and shredding so many tears, that i am better than that,
I will turn the tables on him and not speak to him and i plan to get on with my own life and be happy, If he truly loves me as he says he does than he will come to me when he is ready and has decided that he just wants to be with me and me only But will he leave it to late?
2006-10-14 07:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by blondegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, the more you try the cheaper you are! it's damn true.
When, I've just broke up with my girlfriend, basically she dumped. we were so much in love, she would have done anything to me, after she finishes her job, she used to travel to see me evryday, 2 hours a day, so you can imagine how she loved me.
after 10 months of love, she just chnaged, saying please forget me, i tried hard to ger back, and i though that what I needed to do, but at a point I realised that her feelings have changed.
When feelings change, nothing will help, so I suggest you to ignore him, and to learn a lesson from it. move on, someone is waiting for you darling.
2006-10-15 03:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by Qonsul * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋