she says that big bird is coming to get her. She wants to sleep with us. I won't allow it, so I've tried the super nanny technique and sit by her door and tell her I am there. The problem is that she won't go to sleep. Last night we were up most of the night. She has no sleep and still goes and goes. We have taken her favorite things away and nothing is working. Please help. We are all soooo tired. Only answer if you have some decent advice please. Thanks so much.
2006-10-14 07:18:47 · 12 answers · asked by luvmydoggies4ever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ok Sweetie. Is she ADHD/hyperactive? Something to look into, I think. I hated sleeping at night and was afraid of the dark and it was all because my parents loved to watch scary movies. In the early 1960's, Boris Karloff and Lon Chaney were really scary, especially in black and white. I was ADHD and had so much energy, I should have been labeled an amphetamine instead of a kid. LOL! But I was also made to take naps during the day and had to go to bed at 7:00 pm every night. I was always awake. My Mom would get mean with me and my twin sister, so we learned how to stay up in our room without her knowing. We had little flashlights we would use and we would read until we got sleepy. Just a bit of history on me before I go into you and your dilemma.
Mom? Taking away her favorite things isn't the answer. When you take beloved items away, the discipline should be directly related to the misbehavior. For example, ride your bike in the street when you know it is forbidden, take away the bike. It sounds like she may have had a bad dream about big bird. She probably has a really active imagination. You haven't had any burglars or anything come in your house, I hope? No scary movies at all? Then, you need to help her by putting her on a schedule that you stick to. Let her know what to expect. Dinner, a nice warm bath, a cup of warm chocolate and one half to a full hour of sitting right next to her bed, reading sweet, funny stories to her, may just help. Cut out any soda and sugar filled drinks during the day and see if it helps. If none of these things work, take her to the pediatrician and let them know what you are going through and do not leave with their usual, "Oh don't worry about it. She will be just fine", line of BS. Let them know you think it may be a physical thing. Also, last, but not least, wear her little butt out during the day!!!! Take her to the park. Take long walks with her. Anything to make her tired when it's bedtime. Now, if you are working parent/s, that may be something you need to look at. Is she just trying to get your attention because you are always at work or busy with other things? Make her feel like she is number one. Is she with a sitter a lot? Change sitters. The list goes on. Please, don't take away her favorite things because she is fearful at night. Don't let her sleep with you either. Find out what is making her not want to go to sleep and go from there. All of what I have told you are merely suggestions. P.S. One of the best authors of children's books which are great for bedtime are by the late, great, Shel Silverstein. A Light In The Attic, Where The Sidewalk Ends, The Big "O", The Giving Tree...are excellent for bedtime stories because you can pick and choose how long you would like to sit there and read to her without not finishing any one of his great little, funny stories.
Good luck Mommy. I wish you and her the best. I hope this helps.
2006-10-14 07:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are wrong in taking her fav things away...she is only a child...and it seems to me that she is a spoiled one at that....Instead of taking things that mean the most to her try explaining to her that you and daddy need some alone time and that everything will be okay if she sleeps alone..try finding her a funny and cute night light or lamp, leave it on for her so if she does wake she can look around and realize that she is at home and is safe...maybe try taking her and finding her a big stuffed animal to sleep with, my daughter loves to cuddle and it was very hard for me to break her sleeping in our bed but the things im telling you about are the things that worked for mine...best wishes
2006-10-14 08:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I remember when I was little, I used to be scared of stuff, mainly because mum let me watch Hammer House of Horror films! Anyway, I slept with my mum until I was about 8 and then felt I should have my own room now.
What about doing it in stages. Let her sleep in bed, then when she is asleep, carry her into her own bed. Wait to see if she wakes, then, leave her with your bedroom door open and hers. Also, try a gentle night light in her bedroom. Hope this helps!
2006-10-14 07:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by Colleen 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It must be the movies she sees that's making her scared.....do you have a night light? This might help......u might also need to read her a nice bed time story....or maybe you should sleep with her and sneak out later.....it takes time.....and don't take her favorite things away...it will make it worse.....my daughter has a small blanket for her to cover her ears and this helps too.....
2006-10-14 07:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
right before bed give her a healthy dose of benedryl. then turn off all of the lights (let her have a dim night light) give her a blankie and a stuffed toy, say prayers with her, give her a kiss, tell her you love her and walk away. If she gets out of bed give her a swat on the butt (I do not advocate beating, but a swat tells her you mean it). WHATEVER YOU DO DONT PUT HER IN YOUR BED, AND DONT SLEEP IN HERS.
2006-10-14 07:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've seen a lot of answers on other questions like this suggesting spray, get her some air freshener or something and label it "Big Bird Spray" and if she wakes thinking Big Bird is there, she can "spray" him and he'll go away. :-)
Hope it helps
~Lorenzo~
2016-07-07 16:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by Lorenzo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe try a warm bath and a story like cinderella or something like that or try sleeping in her room until she falls asleep-just one of you through it's not necessary for both of you to be in there with her. try calling your parents and asking if you were like that and if so what did they do for you to get you to sleep.
2006-10-14 08:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by Simpleandsure 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a Mosque there take her to the Fakir and tell him,he will cure her from this fear.
Mosque is for Mohammedan's but they will allow you.
2006-10-14 07:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by SKG R 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try putting a little bed on your bedroom floor, for a while until she can see that there is no nobdy coming to get her,
2006-10-14 07:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by missouri girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask your husband to hold her, and dance with a very light music,long enough to make sure that she sleeps,while dancing ask him to put his hand in your daughter back and press her in his wide and warm chest.good luck.
2006-10-14 07:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by <<< sky >>> 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋