Ok, I've been going out with my girlfriend for over 4 months now and we go to different schools so I really only get to see her on weekends. Now I'm really not the jealous type, but lately I've just had this bad feeling in me about this guy see's started hanging out with.
I can't seem to get a moment alone with her on the phone anymore on weekdays because she's always IM'ing him and on myspace with him, when we talk and she just seems so distant now. and yesterday she called while she was at lunch and said two words but kept me on the phone while she talked to him and a few others, then when they were leaving she just went "K gotta go bye" and I thought she was talking to them so before I could even get a "who me?" out she hung up. none of the usual I love you and talk to you later kind of thing.
I trust her, I just can't stand the thought of losing her. and I don't want to bring it up to her out of fear of frustrating her...
Any advice to help get me though this?
2006-10-14 07:13:29 · 9 answers · asked by linked161 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you say you got a bad feeling in you well it seems like she got a good feeling in her so the bottom line is (next)
2006-10-14 07:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So here are two options
1. Bring it up and talk to her about it before it bothers you too much more. This way, you can think about what you wanna say and say it most effectively...or you can go with option 2, which is
2. Wait until you can't take it anymore and bring it up out of pent up emotion. In this case, you're not going to be able to do this as well as you'd like. You might even say some things you'll wish you hadn't, plus you'll have to suffer until you can't take suffering anymore, which sucks. Then there's always...
3. Don't say anything at all and wait for her to break up with you. Holding on to her for dear life while she pushes you away will make you feel so pathetic, it'll make you feel like you're never gonna get over it. This is the worst choice you can make. It's also the one you're most likely to make.
You're young and stupid. Its ok. We're all young and stupid at some point. I have so been there. And being there makes you do stupid things. Especially for women. And it only gets a little better when you get older. But it would really be in your best interest to not let this girl do this to you. You see, here is the deal: It's already over. This girl just hasn't told you that yet. I know you know this. If you talk to her about it, she can let you know with some respect and you get to keep your dignity. If you don't, she'll think leading you on for as long as possible to eventually hurt you is being nice and she'll drag you through it. Do yourself a favor and get things over with.
2006-10-14 14:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't there somehow you could see her more thru the week? You could ask who he is going out with and maybe be at a little more comfort if says someone and then you don't have to worry.. maybe tell her next time you are on the phone with her and he is around to tell her to tell him you said what's up? start making conversation with him thru her and maybe if he didn't know she had a boyfriend he will when he starts conversing with you??? just some ideas!!!
2006-10-14 14:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're afraid to talk to her about it, than there's something wrong with the relationship to begin with. You should be able to discuss issues and let her know how you're feeling without being afraid that she'll get frustrated or annoyed with you. If she does, than she's not worth holding onto, especially if you're already as suspicious as you are. Either way, she's taking advantage of your devotion to her and emotionally abusing you.
2006-10-14 14:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask and an answer shall come! From the school she goes to she may of started feeling closer to another locale student.
If you see a girl at your school ma bey she might be jealous like shoe on other foot...
Good love...
2006-10-14 14:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by ***BEEN THERE, DONE THAT!!!*** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. you want to be with her but not smother her.
it's hard to be patient. but if you are, maybe she'll see you're the one for her and not just a fling. give her space, make sure she knows you[re interested and if she comes back good. if not, you throwing yourself at her will not make her like you more.
peace out dude.
2006-10-14 14:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she boinking him, get out while you have your dignity. There are plenty of others as good as or better.
2006-10-14 14:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by Thin Ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to start calling her more + give her more attention
2006-10-14 14:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by Miley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about and tell her how you feel
2006-10-14 14:21:09 · answer #9 · answered by popcorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋