My boyfriend just moved out of his house, and he has always been having huge grade problems. He is now a senior in high school and he has to pass every class this year to graduate. He keeps saying how he is going to get good grades yet he always seems to have an excuse of why a grade is bad. He is such a sweetheart and he is so good to me. My family loves him, but they are worried because they want him to go somewhere in life and it looks like he is not going to. All of the adults that have helped him with his "big" move have told him how dissapointed they are because he doesn't seem like he's trying. He keeps saying "I'll do better." but no one has seen anything. I love him and I want him to go somewhere in life, and in order for him to have a future and go to college, he needs to graduate high school. I just don't know what to do. I feel like I should be motivating him in some way, because he can't seem to find self motivation. HELP!
2006-10-14 06:33:18 · 8 answers · asked by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not facing up to his problems. Where is he living? You said he moved out-hope your parents didn't let him move in. I'm sure he's a sweetheart, but he's being lazy because people are enabling him to be that way. Don't do anyhting, let him fail.
2006-10-14 06:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe there is a problem that he has, a personal prblem, and he can't seem to get it off his chest. So maybe you can sit down with him, and talk, come up with some agreements. Maybe, make a contract state'n some things like if you move up to a c, you can get SOME action, or money, or something that he want, but don't give him that thing untill he get good grades. I hope u get what i'm trying to say, and i hope that he get good grade b4 the end of the school year, and i hope that everything goes well. But just really talk to him, and get some agreements/deals down, before yall start arguing.
2006-10-14 13:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by xxMiizzCxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe offer to help him study, so when he graduates you two can celebrate in a special way (nothing sexual). Also try leaving out and laying around brochures for colleges with the pages about getting good grades in high school to go to college...or even the want ads, maybe he see how important it is to get good grades and be motivated to do so. Good luck!
2006-10-14 13:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by Fuzzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's awfully tough to manipulate someone into wanting something they don't really want. My guess would be that the guy has psychological problems that keep him from knuckling down and getting after it. Lord only knows what they might be but you might be able to answer the questions if you know about the dynamics in his family. It could be as simple as never having learned how to go about setting and then achieving a goal.
2006-10-14 13:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disconnect yourself from him, pronto! He is going to struggle and flounder a lot until he finds out what he wants out of life, and what he wants to do and be. If you stay with him, you will be dragged down, and then through, a lot of crap.
Sometimes you just have to know when to cut a person loose, regardless of how you feel about him. It's not your job to motivate him, or to give him direction. If you stay with him, one day you will wake up in the middle of a disaster and wonder how you ended up there. This is one of those few moments that you have in your life wherein the trajectory of how your future will go, is going to be decided...get out now!!!
2006-10-14 15:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the boy needs a good "Blow J" to me...You'll be supprised at how motivating this will be...
It sounds like you should be the one worring about getting a good education, so you can have a great future, make alot of money and
support the boy and yourself in the style to which you seem to want to become acustomed/....Good luck....dont forget the Blow J.!
2006-10-14 13:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people think life it to much like movies,people don't change over night no matter how many times they show similar situations in the movies.
honestly-having a girlfriend is probably holding him back-why? because he knows he can always rely on you to make him feel better when he doesn't try hard enough. what HE NEEDS IS SOMEONE TELL PUT HIM IN HIS PLACE AND TELL HIM TO STOP FEELING SORRY FOR HIMSELF. he doesn't need to be told..oh baby i'll be there for you..etc etc etc.
he needs to be CHECKED.
not reassured. its way past that point.
2006-10-14 13:38:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are knocking your head against a wall.
2006-10-14 13:41:14 · answer #8 · answered by SKG R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋