I'm having weird thoughts!?

Question

I know my family loves me, but recently my mind is playing games on me and telling me otherwise. i'm making my mind feel like im the least favorite and that my parents are disappointed in me and that im just an annoyance.

i know they care about me otherwise they wouldn't be letting me stay under their roof. why is my mind putting doubt of their love. i feel like im starting to not have anything in common with the members of my family and feel like an outcast.

i don't know what triggered my mind, but it started in the last 2 weeks or so.

thanks!

Answer 1

Something probably triggered these thoughts, maybe you didn't think it was important at the time and that's why you can't remember what it was. Obviously it deeply bothered you, that's why you are feeling "unloved" or "unwanted". You could even be reacting to a movie you've seen recently or someone else (like projecting, in reverse, you are taking these feelings from some other source and adopting them as your own).

More important than establishing the reasons for these feelings is talking to your family and easing your mind. If you have a chat with your mum or dad, you will probably feel better and they can help you to understand where these feelings are coming from.

The Internet is also a good resource in trying to help yourself (what I think everyone should do before they consider counseling). Try searching about causes for your feelings.

If none of that helps, there may be an underlying problem or imbalance and you should talk to a doctor about your issues. They can recommend whether or not to try medication or therapy.

Answer 2

To help get your mind back on the right track try the following which was sent to me several years ago and still helps me! It may help you too:
Things That Will Help Make You Feel Good! Think about them one at a time before going on to the next one. It does make you feel good, especially the thought at the end #45.
1. Falling in love.
2. Laughing so hard your face hurts.
3. A hot shower.
4. No lines at the supermarket.
5. A special glance.
6. Getting a card or letter in the mail
7. Taking a drive on a pretty road.
8. Hearing your favorite song on the radio.!
9. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.
10. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.
11. Chocolate milkshake (vanilla or strawberry).
12. A bubble bath.
13. Giggling
14. A good conversation.
15. The beach
16. Finding a 20 dollar bill in your coat from last winter.
17. Laughing at yourself.
18. Looking into someones eyes and knowing that they Love you
19. Midnight phone calls that last for hours.
20. Running through sprinklers.
21. Laughing for absolutely no reason at all.
22. Having someone tell you that you're beautiful.
23. Laughing at an inside joke
24. Friends.
25. Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you.
26. Waking up and realizing you still have a few hours left to sleep.
27. Your first kiss (either the very first or with a new partner).
28. Making new friends or spending time with old ones.
29 Playing with a new puppy or kitten.
30. Having someone play with your hair.
31. Sweet dreams.
32. Hot chocolate.
33. Road trips with friends.
34. Swinging on swings.
35. Making eye contact with a cute stranger.
36. Making chocolate chip cookies.
37. Having your friends send you homemade cookies.
38. Holding hands with someone you care about.
39. Running into an old friend and realizing that some things (good or bad) never change.
40 Watching the expression on someone's face as they open a much desired present from you.
41. Watching the sunrise.
42. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.
43. Knowing that somebody misses you.
44. Getting a hug from someone you care about deeply.
45. Knowing you've done the right thing, no matter what other people think.

Answer 3

Jenn, these could simply be normal teenage thoughts (I assume you are a teenager), as others have said. However, if they persist, it is really important that you talk to a counsellor or someone you trust. They can be a symptom of more serious problems.

If you would like someone to talk to about this, please feel free to email me. I am the mother of a 19-year-old son, so I think I might be able to understand a little of what you're going through and hopefully help you a little bit. At the very least, maybe you won't feel so alone.

Answer 4

I remember feeling this way when I was a teenager for a while. There was a lot going on in my family at the time though. Perhaps you're just jumping to conclusions and you should sit down and talk to your parents and let them know you feel this way. I'm sure they will put your mind at ease.

Answer 5

You are the only one that can control your own mind, so if your mind is making these thoughts then stop it....sounds simple right, not really some people are mentally weak and need counseling and medication and such, if you are mentally strong then just don't worry about it anymore, however if you are weak then I suppose you may need counseling.

Answer 6

You might want to go to a doctor, this may be the beginning of mild but still serious depression. Ask your parents about this, they maybe able to put your "mind at ease". good luck, if you need any more help, e-mail me at [e-mail].
you can e-mail me any time of the day.

Answer 7

i think the best thing to do is talk to your family and explain what you are feeling. reassurance from them will probably comfort you and don't worry we all experience feelings like these at one point or another. one day you'll look back and wonder how you could have ever doubted their love

Answer 8

Sounds very normal to me. I once totally believed without a doubt that I was adopted...no one could convince me differently. Sounds like a phase that will pass...however, the ones to ask are your family.....:) I did. Took 'em a long time, but I finally came to my senses later...like..years...lol....You're ok.

Answer 9

Maybe ur in a rough, stressed period of ur life...it happens to me to. when i'm down i tend to perceive things in a negative way, like i think that my friends dont like me anymore, that they're disppointed in me...but when i cheer up, i dont think like that...are u stressed out or down? I'm sure u'll feel better soon...do some activities u like to keep ur mind off these things...exercises are good for health in general including mental health...

Answer 10

If you have hobbies or activities that you enjoy, alone, or with friends, get more involved in that - it may take your mind off of what you perceive as family issues.