Reassurance?

Question

hello. i'm not a very confident person, though i'm trying to learn to be, as it is very hard. i was just wondering, i rarely receive compliments and reassurance from family and friends. this doesn't help my lack of self-confidence. it would be nice once in awhile if someone in my family could give me a hug and say "you know what you are a great daughter and im so proud of you and love you very much". i know my family loves me but we just don't tend to say it or show it.

maybe i have unrealistic expectations and am just setting myself up for sadness. is it up to me to make myself happy and feel confident about myself? i thought your family should be your backbone and add to your inner strength.

thanks.

Answer 1

I had the same kind of family, only more so. Felt bad for a lot of years, till I finally figured out to be good to myself and take care of me because I deserve it. When you reach this point, and you will, others will respond accordingly. Have you ever tried telling your family what you would like from them?

Answer 2

My parents were way too busy and too tired from work to have time for reassuring me, but it would have been nice. They did not even notice when I got A+ in Algebra and Physics.
I eventually found as I developed my skills and talents, that the people involved in the same things I was interested in reassured me. It turned out to be more gratifying to have someone who knew about those things appreciate me.

Answer 3

look you sound nice and very insecure but there is a saying if u laugh the world laughs with u but if u cry u cry alone. So stop crying and start laughing and the world will notice u trust me it worked for me.

Answer 4

When was the last time YOU hugged a family member and verbally let them know how YOU feel about THEM???