Why are my kids so ungrateful. I work my butt off to give them stuff and they don't appreciate anything I do

Question

Comments like the one Kenshin are crap

Answer 1

My kids have to work for what they have, and thats how they get the things they want. I'll provide food, shelter, clothes, school supplies, and everything else he/she needs for every day life. The one thing I won't give them is video games, cds, and anything else they want, they have to work for it!!!! examples, yard work, dishes, taking care of the pets we have, keeping their rooms clean, getting good grades...etc. The first time I felt my kids were ungrateful, I left the house for a week-end. I made sure they had everything and their father stayed home with them. I turned my cell off and the only messages I answered were EMERGENCY ones. Try that, it worked wonders for me, plus you might get a relaxing week-end out of it.

Answer 2

I used to have that problem then I stopped giving them what they wanted. For a couple of weeks I spent all my money on frivolous stuff for me (even though it was hard) had a really good time and said hey all I've go to do is feed and clothe you not spoil you. Do you know it worked a treat. I now give them an allowance which makes them think very hard about what they want and also limit my tidying input to shared areas they do their own. I also refuse to speak to any of them unless I get respect. My littlest did try his best to be a pain about it but even he came around in the end. Hope you sort it out soon.

Answer 3

Whatever you're doing, stop doing it. Do just the basics, keep the house clean, food cooked, dishes washed, your laundry clean, etc. Let THEM do the rest, whatever needs to be done.

They are to clean their rooms, do their laundry, if they don't want what you've cooked for dinner, they get no dinner; you are not a restaurant. If they want something different, let them go to a restaurant.

They're used to walking all over you, and you are allowing it. It won't be easy to just stop, but start doing it. When you are having some personal time, and they want something, you are not obligated to do it. You are the parent, your job is to raise your children to have respect for themselves and respect for others. You are to teach them how to be self-sufficient; teach them how to cook, clean, do laundry, etc.

That's what I do for my boys, and they get no free rides in my house.

Stop parenting out of guilt, you will only end up with an ulcer, and they won't come to visit you in the hospital.

Answer 4

the reason they don't is because you apparently just hand them the things that they want. stop doing that. do your kids have chores? if not give them some, we all have to work hard to get the things that we want and need as adults, and we learned to appreciate the things we received from doing a little hard work. also your children might appreciate it, more if they had to work to get it. try it what do you have to lose.

Answer 5

Because they are getting things without earning them! You are doing a grave dis-service to your children and are not preparing them for life. The world will not indulge them so it's very important to teach them how to get things on their own. At this point you have created monsters. Best course of action is COLD TURKEY. stop buying them things excpet for toilet paper, underwear ands school supplies. Give them an allowance and stay strong!!

Answer 6

Have you tried letting them work for what they want? All of my children have worked for what they wanted, the reward at the end is a self of accomplishment. They know that it takes $$ to get the things that are nice, it teaches them responsibility for their toys/clothes, and when you do buy them something as a gift they appreciate what you did to get it to them.

Answer 7

That's just the way kids are, they don't do it on purpose. They just don't realize how hard you work to give them everything. One day they'll realize the sacrifices you made to give them the things they wanted and needed. When that day comes, it will all be worth it. At least that's how my mom feels.

Answer 8

i believe this might be in relation to your question.

i think alot of parents have told this to thier kids "when you have kids thier gonna be ten times worse than you" or something like that. anyways the meaning is that our kids will be worse than us and in many cases if you look back you might find that your kids do act like you.

but what i want o know is when did this all start because the guy or girl that first said it needs to be shot because they cursed us for bad kids. if that person had said your kids will be better than you then would they have been or not.

Answer 9

Stop buying them the stuff. Tell them straight up until they learn to appreciate what you do for them that you will not continue buying them all that stuff they think they want. Put them to work give them chores to earn things.

Answer 10

You have to teach them the value of something. That's why most kids have to do chores. If you want a home, car.... you go out and work for it, it's not handed to you. If your kids want toys, video games, to go to the movies.... they need to learn to earn it. When you continue to just give, give, give, they are just going to expect to get to take, take, take.