Can It work with a younger woman or am I setting myself up?

Question

OK, This may be weird but my GF is 18 which is 21 years younger than myself. She's a good girl and Loves me to death and will do anything to be with me. I'm scared because I know women change at least every 7 years. But she's "out there" which makes me think there may be a chance. I've told her I'll be 60 when she's 39 already. What do I do? I also have one who is 37 and wants me bad and she's got lots of money. (which helps a little) but it's hard to go from 18 to 37. I suck but am still confused as hell.

Answer 1

love has no age but do you really have a lot to talk about with her
that is a big gap and she will be in a different emotional intelligence level and there is a culture for each ten year age gap .
different music different history . different humor . different film.
different lingo . this can be surpassed depending on how far her desire tentacle reach for knowledge curiosity and life out side her tI'me period bubble. she will change from year to year as to what she finds interesting important and valuable. The question i have is how interesting is she really? i bet she is cute fresh and
fun . I think you will get bored in a few months hey be Friends for another five or ten years and see if there really is any where else for you to go, my advice w this one is to really take your time yet not play w her emotions . if it is meant to be it will last through some years of friendship. further more i think teens are fragile .
im all for big age differences but those are very impressionable times especially for someone that young . she will probably fall for you hard and you could if you change your mind hurt and scar her very badly worse than some one her age because you have more to offer her than her age group ,capeeshe? you can woo her in ways that will sweep her off her feet with your experience
your experience and your experience.she may never get over you and this spells a big big ouch.

Answer 2

So you are almost 40. I have a son that is 19. I cant imagine dating a boy this young. This girl isnt even an adult. Is she even in college or is she a senior in high school? You are old enough to be this girl father. She probably looks up to you and loves you to death as you say because she didnt have a relationship with her father.You are more experienced than she is I am sure even if she is out there. If she is out there at 18 where will she be when she is 37? I thought men your age are more settled. I guess you are reaching the age where you still have to prove yourself. Most men when they go through their mid life crisis they get boats,motorcycles or cars.While women mature faster than men I still cant see where you would have a lot of things in common.You graduated high school the year she was born. This female will change there is no doubt about that. Just imagine how much you have changed since you were a teenager. Young women bring DRAMA You know how it is being a teenager. I cant see you going to the places she would want to hang. It would be hard to bring her into your world because she isnt old enough. At age 18 she isnt as responsible as the woman that is 37. Men are all the same you find the woman that is 37 more of a challenge.The woman thats 18 cant see your faults or flaws where the woman of 37 could. I am sure the 18 year old loves you to death you can do more for her than a man of 18 could. While you are on a even playing field with the woman thats 37 or maybe youre not and thats the problem. Its hard to go from 37 to 18 not the other way around. I am sure this 18 yr old gives you a work out but how long do you think you can keep her interested. Unless you plan on taking care of her then I wouldnt take the relationship to be a serious one.

Answer 3

It sounds as though you may be better off leaving both of them alone. These women know what you have already stated: all people change and looks and money won't solve every problem. People need to avoid relationships that are based on getting money from someone or on physical pleasures alone. It never works for very long. What really matters is how will you feel if the one of these women you choose decides that you are her "meal ticket" or "sugar daddy", as well? Do not waste your time on anyone whom you would not be willing to exchange places with in a heartbeat -- because that is what could happen, regardless of your ages. Best wishes.

Answer 4

I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 26. We don't have any problems. I think it really depends on both people. When we first started dating (been together a year) age was a big focus, but it has been long forgotten.

I have to admit though, every once in a while, I see the young 18 in me and the older 26 in him and feel a little embarressed, but it's always just a moment...

Honestly, I'm changing so much and while he loves me and wants to be with me, I don't know what I want. She's 18 and will change drastically over the next few years. If she is truly in love with you and you truly love her, you will both change together, if not, then she will change and grow apart from you.

Answer 5

Answer the following questions, it should help you decide:
1. Do you have a lot of money or will you when you die?
(us girls tend to plan out our future and will date a guy who's 60 when we're 39 if he has a lot of money)
2. Are you like really good in bed?
(make sure she knows that that's gonna change when youre older, viagra doesnt work forever)
3. What are her future plans at 18?
(do they involve you, to what extent?, cuz if all she wants is to get married and have children at that age there maybe some exterior motive)

Answer 6

I think you're a bit shallow, myself. If it were "true love", you wouldn't even be thinking of the other woman. To answer your Q, she's 18 so at least you're not illegal! I have a couple of friends who are married and in both cases, the woman is 15 yrs OLDER than the husband...but it works and they're happy. Age difference is not that big of a deal unless you make it so. If you have any doubts, then let the girl go, and let her find someone who will truly love and respect her. (B/c I don't think you really do. Sorry.)

Answer 7

I say enjoy it while you can. Make sure that she is not in the relationship with you for alternate reasons, like money or an escape route. You have a legitimate concern with her changing her mind later on, but some people do work out. You really need to ask yourself if you genuinely love her or are you just smitten with being with a younger woman? It works both ways.

Answer 8

okay listen yes you could be setting yourself up because yes women do change and the 18 yr old chick is still young don't probly don't even know what she is going to do with her life yet, so maybe take a break and go for the older chick and see what happens. you have too think there are many girls out there and so if it don't work out then you will find someone belive me you will. but you also have to think about the different things about each women, think about what you do like about each girl and think about what you don't like. that may help you decide. but the best thing i can tell you is just to listen to your heart...later

Answer 9

Don't be a dirty old man....

She's 18.... you're almost 40. You could be her father... and not only that, she's so young she still has a lot to experience and will be changing.

It doesn't sound like you love her much anyway, since you made no mention of it and you're considering the 37 year old with money.

I say break it off with her, since you only seem to like her since she's young meat.

Answer 10

you are 21 years older then her?

Sorry guy but the age difference is too great, different generation and different outlooks.

Love might burn brightly but it soon dims

This 18 year old is too young to know what she wants, plus personally, what the hell are you doing with a 18 year old? It might be legal but come on man, think with your head not your other head